This is so stupid. I am 27 years old and have been married for 7 years. I have 2 kids and am generally happy in life. About 6 years ago, I got a tattoo on my back (just a small one of a sun) which is very concealable. Then last year I got one on my inner ankle. I am very proud of my tattoos, and they are very meaningful to me....point of the matter is, I'm freaking 27 years old and am fully aware of any consequences that can occur with getting a tattoo. My little sis (age 23) gets one last week on her foot. She broadcasts it all over her myspace page and I guess my dad gets on sees her tat and my little comment underneath it about how we could show Dad our tats together..now my Dad and stepmom are really ticked. I've kept my tats hidden from them the whole time. I really don't care what they think considering I am an adult, but I don't like to fight with them about something that is really none of their business. What do I tell them? I have to face them Sat.
2007-05-01 02:42:28 · 16 answers · asked by Whitney S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your parents that you are an adult and as an adult you made the decision to get a tattoo, which you are very happy and content with. Let them know that you didn't like keeping them out of the loop about it but you knew they would disapprove and you just didn't want to deal with the conflict. Being upset about you getting a tattoo, as an adult, or concealing the fact is really just petty of your parents. If they're mad then what can you really do? Just stand your ground, but don't indulge them by arguing.
2007-05-01 03:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a legal adult. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of your tattoos. Tell them, "I have had these tattoos for 7 years and been respectful of your views on tattoos by keeping them out your view. If my sister hadn't mentioned it you would never have known I even had tattoos. I am the same person with or without them. Please be respectful of my right as an adult to decide for myself what I will do to my own body. Pass the carrots."
If they are rude or unpleasant, give them a hug and tell them you will see them another time. Stand strong, girl. My father hated my tattoos, too. I told him that I understood his views, but I would choose for myself on what I thought was right. He was mad for a week, but he got over it quickly and never brought it up again.
2007-05-01 10:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by hannahthemovie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and Dad are both adults. You have the right to get a tattoo; he has the right to have an opinion about it. It'll just be one of those things you don't agree on. If you approach it with that attitude, there shouldn't be a fight -- but if so, it takes two to fight and you can certainly remove one person from the area (you).
2007-05-01 02:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Clare † 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already got it nailed. Both of you are adults, so what you choose to do while you're not living under their roof is none of their concern. They can be unhappy with your choices all that they like, but they no longer have the right to "punish" you for them.
Just tell them that if making a judgement about your choices is so very important to them, the next judgement they get to make is about how you will no longer visit them because they're overly judgemental of your adult choices.
2007-05-01 02:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show them, they won't be happy but they love you. Me and all of my siblings have tats and my parents freaked. We were raised in a strict home.There was nothing they could do because we are all over 21. They will care more that you lied so long more than the fact that you got them.
2007-05-01 02:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be assertive and just tell them kindly that you are a grown up woman and this is your own life. They have no right to interfer no worry about it. If they get emotional, just leave the room and make them feel bad. As soon as they see 'you're gone' they'll be licking your bat - at least your dad will!
you are a grown up woman, and yes, it is non of their business!
2007-05-01 03:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see , if they bring it up then just say " I don't want to argue about this, I am an adult and make my own decisions. I respect you for your input and advice I do value it but on this subject I know my mind. Am sorry if this displeases you. Now did I tell you what (kids name) did at school last week............"
good luck you will be fine
2007-05-01 02:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them that you are a grown woman and it is none of their business. Most of our young lives our parents set limits and rules for us and usually don't realize when the time comes to stop doing that and have to be told. Now you have to set limits for them as to how much control over your life you will give them.
2007-05-01 02:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by ☼♫Hmm..Interesting♪☼ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG there are terrorists and starving children in china and gas is over 3 bucks a gallon. I think there are worst things to be worried about right now. You got them, you cant take them off. So tell him to deal with it. Or go get daddy and daughter tattoos together.
2007-05-01 02:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is not how to tell your dad. The problem is your relationship with your dad. You're an adult. You have children. You're married. It's time to stop trying to win Daddy's approval.
2007-05-01 02:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋