She says she doesn't want to. But shes also bi and has sex with girls but not me.... I'm confused. her haveing with girls doesn't bother me. But why won't she with me??? i Know she likes me Intimately but, why won't she sleep with me?
2007-05-01 02:37:06 · 32 answers · asked by ninja-juggalo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't even question it... You know I usually will say, "If you really lover her and want to be with her you will wait until the time is right and she is ready" BUT if you are telling us that this girl is having sex with other girls and doesn't want sex with you, i don't know that just sounds strange; maybe in her little immature mind she believes oral sex or any type of sexual activity except penetration is NOT considered sex, i don't know but there is something wrong here..... Don't bother, if she doesn't want to then don't push the subject, don't ask her again and just break up with her... The simple fact that she is having sex with other girls she is already cheating on you... and she's a lesbian!
2007-05-01 02:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit.
Sex is a very important thing in relationships. If she thinks talking and holding hands makes a relationship, she should find someone who feels the same.
And so should you.
Clearly you don't feel the same on this very important topic.
Basically: she wants to stay a virgin means: She wants to have sex, but not with you.
You're being used and manipulated.
Also, she's taking the loosest definition of virginity here. Sounds like it really is no more than a thin excuse to do it with anyone but you.
Leave. Seriously. If she really wants you, she'll lose her mind over you and do it anyway (which is good because it means she really loves you). If she does not come over and do it, she was never willing to commit to you and you were wasting your time anyway.
2007-05-01 02:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is scared. Woman can be less intimidatating then men. And if she wants to stay a virgin, good for her, even though some might say that she is not since she is having sex w/women. But for all intents and purposes, she is still a virgin. Give her time and show her a great deal of patience and she will come around once she gets more comfortable and trusting of you.
2007-05-01 03:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by syns_pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dats not right, if I was man other wise you, I would leave her and tell her why, but Iam more than sure she would know because shes playing you like a fool. If you were one of those men who went slept around with every women you meet cause she not giving it to you, then her feelings would be hurt. But youre the good one in the relationship, not cheating on her and respecting her needs and feelings. But shes having sex with women and not you dats wrong. See shes one of the women who messes things up for the good women out here. I can see if she wasnt having sex with no one and was just sober, but shes not. Really if you ask me shes cheating on you in your face with no guilt. (THINK ABOUT IT) Cause if she really cared about you she wouldnt have sex with anyone if its not you. But if you really love her enough to stay with her and tell her how you feel then she change stay with her and put everything behind you guys speak up. *(GOOD LUCK)*
2007-05-01 02:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a growing trend in young adults to abstain from sex. maybe it is a Christian thing or her personal beliefs. But you need to respect them. The weird thing from the studies I have read. Anal sex is ok with them. Maybe suggest that. It inst the same but it could lead to bigger and better things..
2007-05-01 02:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that she doesn't know what her preferences are....girls or boys. She is still looking for her true self and her encounter with your penis might seam a bit strange for her. Maybe, she's n not sure whether she likes it or no. You must go slowly with her, thus giving her chances for loving your organ. But, I believe that you should help her to start accepting it.
Good luck, my friend
2007-05-01 02:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by veceras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just need to be patient, she may nnot be ready to take it to that level with you, which i dont blame her the first time is scary! You should talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel and hear what she has to say, if she still doesnt forsee it happening in the near future and if you feel you cant wait....then you should call it quits and move on.
2007-05-01 02:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person above me...it just really sounds like she is a lesbian..no bi...she may not actually be interested in you..sexually.
2007-05-01 02:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not pressure your love and respect her wishes to not have intercourse with you. Everyone has different needs and wants in a relationship you have to put her needs and rules in front of yours in a relationship. RESPECT is the KEY.
2007-05-01 02:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lateasha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting the short end of the stick eh... Go ahead and have sex with other women until she's ready, she is.
2007-05-01 02:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋