i have had a boyfriend for 4 months and im in love with him and he is in love with me. Although we are in love... he constantly tries to make me jealous and constantly tells me he wants to break up then doesnt do it. Why does he keep doing this? help
2007-05-01 01:28:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he runs out of topics for conversation and breaking up is the only thing he can think of to talk about.
Maybe he does this to keep you guessing, as a sort of power play.
Maybe he's not as smitten with you as you think.
At any rate, what he's doing seems rather cruel to me.
2007-05-01 01:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kraftee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubbs does the same thing except he never says hes going to break up with meeh lol. Hes just trying to test yoo. He wants to see how much yoo love him. And maybe yeah he wants more attention from yoo. And i know this sounds a lil sick, but some guys do this to keep the relationship going. Its fun for them. When he tries to make yoo jealous just ignore him or just act the way yoo wanna act dont pretend that ur not a lil jealous. Well thats what i do sometimes i act really jealous and sometims im like whatever. There has to be a balance. If it really bothers yoo then have a serious talk with him.
2007-05-01 01:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dreamer818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's clearly insecure and is 'testing' your reaction to his threats of breaking up. He needs constant reassurance because he has a low opinion of himself. If you really love him it would be best to discuss his behaviour with him and try to work through it together. On the other hand he might be a control freak and enjoy the power he has over you, knowing he can upset you by threatening to dump you. Only you know the real reason - the only way to figure it out is to talk to him, give it a couple of months and if he's still acting like and idiot, give him the boot - some people are SO emotionally retarded, it really isn't worth the heartache, no matter how much you love them. Good luck.
2007-05-01 01:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by demonicas8n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wheather he realizes it or not, he's trying to control you. So far it sounds like it has worked, you are still with him.
Love means that he'll do anything he can to make you truely happy and vice versa. If he is purposefully making you jealous, then that is not love, it's control.
If you love him, then let him go (and don't look back) because he doesn't love you.
Good luck and stay strong.
PS: For those that say it's only puppy love, that is saying that this girls feeling are not real. They ARE real. Dating is part of life. The more you date the more you know what you are willing to settle for or not. If she is a young teeneager, then she is just finding out what she wants. I certainly didn't know what I wanted until my mid 20's.
2007-05-01 01:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jennefer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being an asshole. He is immature and insecure. He does these things so you will beg and plead for him not to leave in order to make himself feel like a big man. Call his bluff. Next time he says he wants to break up tell him okay and see what happens.
2007-05-01 01:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Wolf S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It sounds like a childish sort of relationship--say mid teens???? I think he doesn't know what he wants and if its only been 4 months---how can you possibly say its LOVE? I'm thinking more like puppy love and it will pass. Looks to me like a stepping stone to find your REAL LOVE.If he
keeps saying he wants to break up and doesn' then what are you waiting for? Break up with him. Why want someone who isn't sure he wants you???
2007-05-01 01:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Quad Momma LUV the dunes! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he is insecure and this is his way of making sure you still care and don't want the relationship to end.
That or he enjoys toying with your feelings.
Try talking about this issue you have with him...do you really want to be with someone who constantly makes you jealous and threatens to break up with you?
2007-05-01 01:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by orange_sandwhich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a game player and he enjoys hurting you. Is this the kind of BF you want? Do the same thing to him and see how he feels. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Then, break up with him for real.
2007-05-01 01:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure are not in love. You two lust for each other and that is what it is. Don't get too conserned about it. Lovers come and lovers go. I have had many and liked them all but time doesmarch on.
four months is about long enough for now so get another.
2007-05-01 01:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just want you to pay attention to him more and it sorta gives you the feeling that your partner loves you when they get jealous. Show him you love him more and he won't feel the need to make you show it.
2007-05-01 01:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ronnie Weasley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋