okay if this guy gives me a gift he is always telling me what I can or cant do with it.or says he is going to take them back. I need some help here.. what do you all think? outside of me breaking up with him
2007-05-01 01:17:32 · 9 answers · asked by Theresa d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's trying to impress you with his buying power and maintain his means. I wouldn't read anything more into it yet.
2007-05-01 01:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may just be fickle like that. Some people want to do something, then regret later on. Maybe he just has a hard time making up his mind on things. Or, on a happier note, he could just be trying to get you that 'perfect' gift. You never know. But if you're curious, the next time he takes something back, ask him in a polite, seasoned manner, 'Why?' Thier are a lot of reasons as to why he could be doing this, but I'd just ask him right out. Give it a try.
2007-05-01 01:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him back every gift he ever gave me and tell him to take a walk. You don't need someone so selfish and self serving in your life. Gifts are gifts, and once given belong to the recipient. He wants to try to control you with his "gifts." Forget that. Move on. It will only get worse as time goes by.
2007-05-01 01:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true gift is given without the other person telling you what to do with it. This is just a form of control which will get worse over time.
2007-05-01 01:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're missing the control you have. and what you can control is whether YOU accept the gift or not. Don't accept the next gift, and when he asks why? say it doesn't come with clear directions printed on it saying what you can't or can't do so until everything is defined, you're done with gifts. that will shake him a little.
2007-05-01 01:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by CJSmartz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's manipulative. I just wouldn't accept gifts from him. Explain that you see his behavior as controlling, and that if he persists in those kinds of actions, with gifts or otherwise, you aren't going to be with him for long. If you feel he's up to take control of his behavior, suggest that he talk about things and learn to give you space. He might not be willing to take advice, though.
Honestly, it's an early warning sign of a potential abuser. Be very, very cautious about getting seriously involved with him.
2007-05-01 01:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's strange... well from what I can gather, the 'gift' is not something he's given you as a symbol of appreciation, but rather more like something of 'his' that he's 'lent' you, what with telling you what to do with it and all... does he act like you 'belong' to him as well? That could be the reason... strange guy... He sounds manipulative, definitely not a good thing...
2007-05-01 01:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the gifts back, so he can decide what to do with them.
2007-05-01 01:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by talz_talz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's weird and you sound like you do too. I'd say goodbye to this guy
2007-05-01 01:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋