Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1year and 7 months. He tells me he is in love with me and doesnt know what his life would be without me. For me I love him dearly but Iam not happy when Iam with him and Iam not happy without him, it seems eaither way I set myself up for a lose situation. Please help? I love him to death but I feel like the relationship is going no where
2007-05-01 00:50:25 · 16 answers · asked by LightSkinnedPrincess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same thing happen to me. I was and still am with my bf of 7 yrs. I went thru a time in my life that lasted a good 8 months where I didnt know if I loved him and I wasnt being fake I was just trying my hardest and I ended up going to a pyschologist because I was an emotional wreck I didnt have the guts to end the relationship and didnt want to end either. When I went to the pyschologist she was able to help me figure out what was causing my problems. One of them was that I had a minor depression and the other was I was resentful for the fact that he had cheated on our 2nd yr. Thats been something that I have tried so much to put in the past and I havent. All of this depression and not knowing what I wanted started in 2005. And ended last yr in the summer. So, Its been close to year that I have been feeling good about the relationship and I havent been confused on whether or not I love him. Its really hard sometimes to know whether or not you love someone or you are in love especially when you've been dating for 7yrs. My suggestion is that you ask for some time off and sort out YOUR feelings and see if you miss him and what YOU really want. Sometimes when we take time off it helps you to figure out what you want and what you are looking for. I am not going to tell you to go to a pyschologist because that is optional for you and if you feel the need to go then go. But, I knew I had some type of depression that was affecting my relationship and I knew it had to be fixed quick or I was in trouble. Good luck and take it easy...!
2007-05-01 01:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a very thin line of being in love with someone and loving someone! In your situation I think that you loved him in the beginning but along the way you pulled apart. Either that or the fact that you guys spend so much time together you start to get annoyed by each other. Either way if your not truly happy why stay in the relationship if you know in the end it will never last.
2007-05-01 07:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ron 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you just need to experience life as a single person and "find yourself" rather then always being one half of a couple. It's better to do this now rather then when you have been together for 10 years. But it does mean missing the other person and sometimes being lonely. There is good and bad no matter what you decide to do.
2007-05-01 08:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by SR 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, I'm going through the same thing. I understand exactly what you are feeling. My boyfriend and I are going through the same thing. One day we love each other, the next day we don't. But you just have to stand up and say to him what you want, and listen to what he wants and try to come to a compromise. If you really love him like you say you do, and if he loves you like he says he does, then the BOTH of you guys will come to a mutual decision. However, If you honestly feel like you can't stay in this relationship, then leave. But be honest and let him know what you feel. Don't stay and be miserable, and unhappy.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-05-01 08:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by greenvillesoulja 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's why you have kids and get married! You'd be devastated without him. It sounds like you need to develop or re-invent yourself, that you've lost touch with who you are. Maybe you simply need to do other things and discover what you want to do, in addition to being his wife/lover.
I don't get the feeling that you don't love him. Not at all.
I hope I helped.
2007-05-01 08:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for him, work on it. Give it your best shot. You know when love is over when your feelings for him become numb. He can show you every emotion but they don't effect you in any way. You have lost the connection, your just numb. Are you to this point? I hope not.
I wish you both much happiness. :)
2007-05-01 08:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the other half of another person. You are a whole person. Know yourself and what you want and be clear about it. Don't just fit in with other people to be accepted. His life without you is what he makes it, you are not responsible for his choices. Live the life you want, live it today.
2007-05-01 07:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Pure Star 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you know love is over?
When you are out of ammo.
When you have to use a mop to clean up the evidence.
When the police come to your front door asking the whereabouts of your ex.
When you smile everytime you drive by that open field.
2007-05-01 08:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U know love is over when u don't feel the same as ur gf or bf feels. Where u feel u need more space or wont to see other people
2007-05-01 07:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by T-Money 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only truly in love if you cannot stop thinking about him all the time. But if when you are around him ad you feel depressed ( because of him) then you probably aren't meant to be. But maybe you should go see concelling.
2007-05-01 08:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Chicken Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋