My housemate is having an affair with the CEO of our company. It has grossed me out ever since because they are both married (she and I are expatirates). Anyway, the girl is separated from the husband but no annulment yet with 2 kids, has a boyfriend in another country who regularly calls and sends her money, and is currently cleeping wth the CEO. They told me to be quiet about the whole thing but Im slowly finding it difficult to live in the same roof. (Housing provided by company). My conservative catholic upbringing dictates what i see in my own living space is wrong and i feel like im tolerating it. but my liberated education tells me to just mind my own business. Its so hard just watching everything happen in front of me and i cant tell anyone. worse, the CEO's good freind has been close to me and now we are becoming sweet. He too is married. I feel cheap. I afraid i might become like my housemate who i abhor. its so diffucult living this way. help!
2007-05-01 00:45:57 · 15 answers · asked by Stefani 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To liz, im not using german words. there are typos alryt-- im using sms shortcut in case u notice. thanks for the advise anyway
2007-05-01 02:51:45 · update #1
I think it's time you step back and really assess this. There are two separate issues here.
First there's the fact that you live in a household that you find morally reprehensible. To ask you to do this is inappropriate. You should be able to speak with someone in the HR department and explain that the situation is strained and you require different living arrangements.
Secondly is the issue of your own morality. If you believe it's wrong to hook up with a married man, don't do it. And certainly don't use your housemate as an excuse. This is a situation where you have control.
In the end, if this situation doesn't work, you may have to change jobs. People do it all the time.
2007-05-01 01:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what is right and what is wrong. Your housemate has her own life. She knows what is right and what is wrong. To her its right, so let her be. But for you knowing its wrong to be involved with a married man then, why do it???
You maybe lonely overseas but, you know what is right and what is wrong. Don't destroy a family, that man is obviously out for cheap fun. He is a married man. Put yourself into his wife shoes, into his children's shoes. Stop there. You will be glad that you did that in the future if you stop. You know your religion upbringing, no religion in the world will support this.
Look there are many nice man out there. You ask the yahoo community, how many nice man out there. Join the yahoo meetic, go to your church. Go out to help the orphanage and old folks homes and you will value family hood and not get involved and destroy one. Its about time you get married too, so don't live a life to regret. God Bless you.
2007-05-01 01:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lairbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep out of it as much as possible. This includes finding a new place to live.
Don't let the CEOs friend push you into a place where you feel uncomfortable.
I think that you will find a change of address would do wonders for you.
2007-05-01 03:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the company nest. Don't let the arrangement ruffle your feathers. You need another environment for personal growth. I would even consider getting employment through a corporate competitor. As for your roommie, let her do her own thing. She and the CEO will have their own issues in which to settle.
2007-05-01 00:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LIz yet another captivating answer. heavily human beings the entire pre nup difficulty make me puke! i does not marry a woman who would want a pre nup and that i'd't marry a woman who does not take my final call. i'd in no way marry a mogul except i replaced into yet once you do no longer have faith i'd tak each little thing, then some thing is incorrect. the have faith isn't there. i do no longer desire to pay attention approximately divorces would desire to take place and blah blah. whilst a guy choses to have a paternity try women human beings get all up in arms approximately that. and there is so plenty greater adult men who're fathering babies who're no longer theirs than adult men who're marrying wealthy women human beings and attempt to divorce them and take them for each little thing.
2016-10-04 04:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story reminds me of a saying I heard many yrs ago.
Birds of a feather will flock together. You will be judged by the company you keep.(Whether you believe it or not!)
If it were me I would divorce myself from the living arrangement you are in.
2007-05-01 00:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Robert Baker postulates that hypnosis is socially induced by means of suggestion, compliance, and relaxation. I'm guessing that if this girl is in thrall to her boss, she's scared of him.
Don't give in to fear of the situation. Love is the only way. That's how you can help her.
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
2007-05-01 00:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by MiD 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Firstly, confront her. If it doesn't work out, then tell her to get out since she's sleeping with the CEO, the CEO can afford to buy her another place! If this doesn't work out, I think it's wise for you to get another place...
2007-05-01 00:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by countess_amalina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect the individuality and privacy of others. Let others live their life, they like. Do not be jelous.
Try to mind your own business.
Be happy and let the others be happy.
2007-05-01 00:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by rajendra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh, mind your own business. You have double standards. Sort your brain out and dont worry about other people's lives
2007-05-01 03:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by starla_o0 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋