Why is it in every islamic country, they claim to follow Islam yet don't? For example, forced arranged marriages. Islam says woman has the right to choose, and even propose, yet these "men" act like she's cattle. Islam says a man is supposed to emulate the Prophet (PBUH) who never once struck a woman, stood up for women, and didn't annoy or demand all housework and cooking from his wives. He helped, he did his own things. So why is it so hard for these "men" to shed culture and follow religion? Then the women wouldn't be oppressed, because the men would not be forcing how they feel onto them. Many children in a short amount of time wouldn't be born because the woman also has rights regarding that and can refuse for health reasons. Marriage is for tranquility, peace, and harmony for both parties involved. Why is it so hard for these "men", and actually most men the world over, to understand this?
2007-05-01 00:22:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Muslim women and men need to get rid of cultural practices that aren't Islamic.
For example, female genital mutilation, not being able to go anywhere in public without a male, not being able to drive or work and honor killings are not Islamic.
There is nothing in the Quran that supports this.
On the contrary, women are supposed to have sexual satisfaction from her husband (how can she do that with a mutilated vagina?), she is allowed to work outside of the home and to keep her earnings, she is allowed to get an education, she is allowed to vote, she is allowed to have a voice in her home. There are so many rights that a woman has in Islam and it's frustrating that many Muslim women aren't receiving them.
Many Muslim men are ignoring what it is to be a Muslim man:
Muhammad (pbuh):
The rights of women are sacred. See that women are maintained in the rights assigned to them.
Muhammad said, "Beat not your wives." Then Omar came to the Rasul (Muhammad) and said, "Wives have got the upper hand from hearing this."
Women are the twin halves of men.
Those men need a proper schooling in Islam and to get rid of that disgusting male dominated society.
They are giving Islam an extremely bad name.
Edit:
I'm so glad that my boyfriend is a good Muslim. I know that if I were to be his wife (cross your fingers!), I would be treated like a queen that I deserve to be since I'm a Muslimah.
2007-05-01 00:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You are not describing any Muslim men i know. Although i am a Scottish Muslim my husband is Algerian and that is not an accurate description of him, his father, his brothers, his uncles or his friends.
They are all very respectful, NEVER have hit there wife's (if someone hit one of there sisters , cousin or even neighbors the man that did it would have serious consequences to his actions. They would not stand for it), I have never been treated like cattle, I'm not oppressed and my husband makes me feel far from that, we don't have a quick succession of children and neither do his brothers.
I only know of peaceful, tranquil and harmonious marriages for all the Muslim men and women i know. The Muslim men i know are the best of men i have ever known. As a woman in Islam i feel highly respected and protected. I don't know where you get your information from but that has not and is not my experience of Muslim men at all.
P.S. My husband shares all the housework with me and i never was a dish in my home, ever!
2007-05-01 07:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is culture. Look at the Japanese ??? Is that the teaching of Shinto, that make the Japanese women accepting "the beat" from their husband? Most Japanese husbands spend their evening in the geisha house and drink ; many of them are not very polite to their wives either.
I do not believe it is the religion that order to do so, I think it is purely habit or culture.
It is not all muslims men doing that either; at least not like that when they are educated tho. Muslims women should supported to have good education, and feel free to use their intelect to run their life.
Christians ,just the same, in New Guinea, the guys came home drunk as alcohol is not forbidden; starvation in the families as money use for beers. So it is not the religion it is pure culture and habit which is very difficult to change.
2007-05-01 07:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by bill s 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it's not a religion issue really. it's a culture issue. I was married to a Catholic Pakistani for more years than I like to admit. He was abusive mentally, emotionally, and physically, also very controlling to the point that I could not have friends of my own. He controlled everything including my thoughts and opinions. I'm not bashing all Pakistani or Catholic men I'm only speaking of my own personal experience. Just to prove the fact that it's a curtural or personal issue. Many men beat their wives and disrespect them including White Christian men just take a look at the shelters for abused women. That's why I disagree.......... It's not Muslims or Christians or any other religion..... it's people and their bad choices....
2007-05-01 11:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chery 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ditto, sis. With a few minor changes! Yeah I see it's cultural more than islamic. But not all those women are oppressed. Many are quite happy to live like that simply because that is also their culture and that is what they grew up knowing. We see it differently from this standpoint but do they? Probably not all.
Heck, if ya wanna get technical - in islam we women can actually demand to be paid to nurse a baby, or to do any housework. Instead we do it without since we are know we are pleasing Allah even more this way. I do know women that are paid a salary for doing their own housework! :)
2007-05-01 07:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by aali_and_harith 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
These men, they just dun get it!! They understand the principle of Islam but failed in emulation.
They mixed the culture and religion altogether...and got confused, I might say!
2007-05-01 07:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Most Muslim men are arrogant and they hardly understand the 'essence' of their faith.
They call it being chauvinistic!
I have personally seen 'devout' Muslim men treat their wives and children like chattel. They hardly understand the feelings and emotions of others. However, it is equally interesting to note that these devout Muslim men who behave like thugs justify their 'pious' acts from some goddamn "hadiths" which state that womenfolk should be kept within bounds.
Although votaries of the Islamic creed state that Islam gives equal respect to its womenfolk and that it has "actually" raised the level of women in this world of ours it is something which is NOT true in the absolute sense. Just take at Muslim women around you and you'll get my point.
2007-05-01 07:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by The Maulvi Who Sold His Maruti 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Once i was watching a documentary, i couldn't believe that a man from afganistan, treated his wife so badly as he had beaten her up, but not even that taken her eyes out so she can't see, 'n' moreover she was pregnant. that was really shameful.
I don't think they have got any respect for women.
2007-05-01 13:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
because these "men" like the power I suppose. But Allah will judge them for their deeds in the end.
Sigh, alas... they give muslims a bad name.
2007-05-01 07:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 9⤊ 4⤋
Didn't Muhammad marry a six year old? Is this consent or a forced marriage? Isnt this the major prophet of Islam that brought you the Qu'ran? How is it these men are differn't than their prophet and how is this against Islam?
2007-05-01 07:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by djmantx 7 · 4⤊ 11⤋