2007-05-01 00:08:40 · 10 answers · asked by derfek2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off, you shouldn't have neglected to tell your girlfriend (or anyone else for that matter) that you have a child when you first met. There's no shame in being a parent and it's better to lose your chance with someone than be with a person who doesn't like children. The best thing to do now is to fess up. There's really no other solution. Just sit your girlfriend down and let her know that you withheld very important information about your life.
However, if you just found out that you have a daughter by an ex then you need to let your current girlfriend know that this is new news to you as well but that you will be stepping up as a parent.
2007-05-01 02:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a person has a family, it's best that in any friendship or relationship that you be upfront immediately and in your first conversation with that person tell them about your family. You are not alone in dating, you are a family dating a girl. You have a responsibility to your daughter first before you have that to a girlfriend. Your daughter is your dna, she's part of you and you come in a "package deal" when you date someone. So it's only fair to the girl you meet or date that they know upfront that your daughter may need you at any time and your child comes first, you are responsible for your child, and that you would even need to pay the extra cost for a babysitter (depending on your daughter's age) and that some dates may have to be had at home.
2007-05-01 07:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is be straight with her. Tell her soon. Don't wait. Let her know that you were once in a committed relationship with someone and you had a child together, that the relationship didn't work out but you still have this beautiful little girl. Let your girlfriend know you really hope that this doesn't alter the way she feels about you and that you would really like her to get to know your daughter. Don't worry too badly, most of us girls love kids, so it shouldn't be too bad. If she backs off and is totally against the idea of you having a kid and doesn't want anything and I mean ANYTHING to do with her....dump her. Your daughter comes first, my friend. Always.
2007-05-01 09:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sue B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her enough you must just be honest and tell her the truth about your daughter because soon she will be part of your life and your daughter's life too.
2007-05-01 09:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jacques D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you had a one night stand with another woman when you were having a fight or when you were upset or frustrated and then let her cool down for a couple of days and then go for a calm chat and then take her to a romantic dinner i suggest a nice restraunt and then back 2 the bedroom for some champagne and chocolates with some scented candles and rose petals scattered over the floor and bed and some music!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-01 07:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a beautiful daughter and so what? you are a father and so what? Children come from GOD;everybody has to understand that.No discussion.
If she loves you;she will love your daughter too.If not,split now;to avoid future troubles.
2007-05-01 07:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to just tell her, be up front and honest and explain what all went down .... If you wait, or don't tell, she will find out eventually, and then you will REALLY have some explaining to do,,...how it happened and why you did not tell her in the first place.....
2007-05-01 07:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by Tom A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit her down and say i got something to tell you,and then just tell her,theres no use in hiding things best to be straight about it from the start ok m8
2007-05-01 07:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by CARL P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even WANT to hide that fact? You're supposed to be proud of your children.
2007-05-01 07:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be upfront with her... this shouldnt be a problem
2007-05-01 07:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋