I have only been goin out this girl for 3 weeks, i really love everything about her and she says the same. The only problem is her ex, she wont tell him about us because 'he will shout at her and go mad at her'. She tells everyone else about us thought. She see's him everyday a college and spends every lunch with him, just the 2 of them. They were together for 2 years in high school and split up a year ago, he hasn't had another girlfriend since they split up. She has had afew short term boyfriends but nothing serous. He is constantly ringing her checking on her, making sure she isn't with any other guys. She tells me they are just friends and i trust her, but i think he still has feelings for her. I can accept her spending time with him at college but i just don't like the fact that he doesn't know about us. I just want to know what other people would do in my situation. I'm just worried about losing her. She told me she will tell him soon.
2007-04-30 23:58:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's not sure. That much is obvious. Most people here are gonna tell you that you can't compete with that kind of history; that you're her "rebound." I'll ask you this: How much do you want her? How much?
If you want her then you've got to play hardball.
Show that guy you mean business; if he can and wants to kick your ***, that's great! Let him, but don't give up. Keep your eyes locked on his until you pass out. You won't die, and you'll scare him and gain her respect.
Tell her and show her how much you love her, and how devastating it is for you every time she makes contact with him. Explain that jealousy and fear are natural and unavoidable. You don't want to end up in some hospital because these feelings caused you physical exhaustion. If she loves you, she should be considerate of this.
Make it about her and you, you're serious and you want a future with her. You want her to find the strength to move on. Your relationship is worth that much, etc.
This is mating and I would treat it as a war. Because it is.
2007-05-01 00:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't fall for that bull about 'telling him soon'..because guess what..SHE WON'T! Her ex is truely obsessive and she is obviously scared of him. I suggest you tell her to dump him if she still wants to be with you..be serious when you say so..and trust me she will do it if she truely loves you. And next time if he calls to check on her take the phone from her and answer it as her 'current boyfriend'..if he is still attached to her, its about time you take action and send the message to him. She should stop hanging out with him in college alone, since that sends a wrong vibe.
2007-05-01 00:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It has only been 3 weeks. Maybe she is not sure enough of the relationship yet. Give her another month or so, then tell her that it is time to do something about it. Maybe by then he will have found another girl anyway.
2007-05-01 00:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't be worried.
sometimes things like that take a long time just to break to an ex.
if the ex still loves her it puts her in a really bad position because shes with you and she doesnt want to hurt him more.
just give it time, dont stress over it..
im sure its nothing really big you really have to worry about.
good luck.
2007-05-01 00:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by princesslazyass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude, next time she has lunch with her ex, go to her college with flowers, find her, give her the flowers, kiss her in front of her ex. Easiest way for him to find out and your girlfriend won't have to say a thing, if her ex gets angry or embarrassed and all pissed at you, smash him :P
2007-05-01 00:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say it, but if your gf wont tell her ex about you then she obviously cares what he thinks and must still have feelings for him.....if she didnt care what he thought she'd tell him and too bad if he didnt like it. Your her bf, your feelings are meant to come before his.....maybe you should tell her that
2007-05-01 00:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Restraining order.
2016-04-01 03:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her soon is NOT soon enough &
she needs to tell him now, if she is afraid of him
getting physical & hurting her then she needs to tell the COPS about this guy !
2007-05-01 00:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seems to me you're the only one that's more brain dead than she is!
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2016-03-22 19:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Rodolfo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋