losing your virginity before marriage is stigmatized as a sin.
but generation y has almost no regards for this "rule".
it's almost as if it has become a norm.
i'm careful when i say this and i don't mean it in any offence, but i believe virginity to women holds a more deeper importance and impact, than it does to men.
when a girl anticipates having sex before marriage, it seems a lot is at stake.
there's the issue of protection, the idea of "popping the cherry", the partner, and the emotional rollercoaster.
i myself believed i would wait until after marriage.
i grew up with my mother telling me to 'stay pure' until marriage, and i agreed.
then i found someone special. it happened earlier than i thought and yes, unexpected.
with all the reassuring, i couldn't bring myself to come forward to her.
i don't regret it. it was beautiful and meaningful, and my relationship holds strong and true.
but i have to admit, there is a little guilt.
so, is it really that wrong?
2007-04-30 23:30:10 · 17 answers · asked by psychedelena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no its not wrong
2007-04-30 23:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basically marriage before sex is marrying your significant other then having sex. Sex before marriage is basically having sex before getting married to that person. Personally for me, I believe in sex before marriage, because I think if your in a committed & healthy relationship which will eventually lead into marriage then have sex all you want & it also depends on the maturity level of the relationship and how serious each person is about the relationship, but overall this is just my opinion.
2016-04-01 03:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also believed I would wait until marriage, and have advocated doing so. But I didn't. I didn't get married until eight years after I started having sex.
It was a beautiful experience in many ways, just about as good as a girl's first time can be. I have no regrets about it.
2013-12-28 18:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, sex is actually a complete summary of a human life. I mean, tell me who you find sexually attractive and I'll tell you your nature, life and fututre. Sex is an act of celebration of life and is more about the right person than marriage. I mean, women are obiously more concerned with sex before marriage ,and rightly so, as if the condom doesn't work, they're the ones who have to deal with morning sickness and pregnancy. I mean, this is a personal choice and you need to make yours on your own values, but if you need an opposing viewpoint to help you decide, try Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged.
2007-05-01 00:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sarab s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can tell how seriously you take it as you define "popping the cherry". Give me a break. Sure yes, it is wrong. If you have to ask the question then you already know it is wrong.
BUT, how many marriages do you know that end in divorce? So, you have to think...how special is it then to find out you saved yourself for a complete jerk? So, if you found someone who treats you well...
2007-05-01 00:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. I am not Christian. I don't believe in sin. I do believe in right and wrong. What I find wrong is people who are cavalier about sex. You know, they have no feelings for the person they sleep with. The don't really even factor in the consequenses such as pregnancy or disease. They just want their fun when they want it. That, in my mind, is wrong. If you have feelings for the person and want to express it in a physical way, if the intent is pure, what can be wrong with it? It's a beautiful thing! And if you love the person, that makes it so much more.
These are only my feelings. Please do not use them to justify your own guilt. You have to work this out for yourself.
2007-04-30 23:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's only wrong if you believe it is. There is no rule that you can't do it before marriage. If people want to wait then that's up to them but you can't say it's a rule because not everyone believes that you should wait and that's their choice and they shouldn't be put down for that.
2007-04-30 23:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is all up to you, and what your religion is and what your beliefs are.
If your beliefs are no sex before marriage then hold on tight to those beliefs!!! And respect yourself for believing in yourself and your values!
There is nothing wrong with waiting, until you are married, a lot of men will respect you for what you believe in, it shows you have respect for your self and the man you are saving yourself for.
And the man you are saving yourself for will respect you also!
Sometimes I wish I could have waited also, I can't tell you how many times I was "scared" and worried about the "what if's" before I got married.
I admire you for your decision and holding your head up high and believing in yourself!
2007-04-30 23:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing wrong is that you might feel guilty for doing something that nature intended. Don't believe when people say they waited till marriage, even people who go to church, they just lie to their kids as they all do it before marriage they just pretend they didn't
2007-04-30 23:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope...nothing wrong at all. You done what you thought was right. It was your decision to have sex, you could have said no.
Many women in many cultures, religions, whatever, do the same thing so you are not alone with your decision.
2007-04-30 23:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Magicman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u know i think it's great ppl still have great strong values and want to stay pure untli they're are married and i have great respect for that cos nowadays thats very difficult, i told myself i'd never do it until marriage, but things happen, i don't regret it though but i think after marriage it's jus that lil extra special,
2007-04-30 23:38:30 · answer #11 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋