How can i get my ex fired?

Question

I'm pregnant and my ex dumped me when i was 5 weeks gone he soon moved onto a 17yr old gf (he's 25 married still but not with her and has 3 kids!) i want them to split up so he will be here for the baby and so that we can maybe start again. If not i want him away from my hometown and the only way i can think is if he got fired he'd have nowhere to live here. he has previous criminal history including beating both his pregnant exes and stealing from an old job what can i do?

Its not that simple he lives close by too close and i have to see ghim and his skanky gf very often if he doesnt move then i have to but this is where i grew up!

Some of you are being very harsh, i dont have mental health issues. We were together for a long time and he was seeing his other children the reason he's not seeing them now is becaue he's with the new gf. i wouldnt have been with him if id known he had beaten his exes up, i dont really want him back but to help me out he should play his part in the childs life and he is capable of doing so. i dont feel like i should have to move from my hometown where i grew up to avoid seeing him every day so if anyone has any bright ideas about the best way to do that rather than slagging me off please leave an answer!

Answer 1

You clearly want revenge, which is natural, but this isn't the way to do it. He's a free agent and it seems like he doesn't feel tied to anyone at this stage. I think you have to grit your teeth and think of yourself and the baby - what is best for you. Yes you need some financial support from him and he should pay something, and you should also think that your baby will probably want to know its father (despite your bad relationship with the dad, the baby is entitled to get to know its father). If you get him fired, then no financial support for you.
Take a deep breath and think about this. Even if he moved away, you'd still have these feelings of wanting to get even. You have to get over this, be strong and independent. Difficult at this time, I know, but this feeling will never go away and even if he went away you'd still feel hate when he came for parental visits.
The best revenge is living well. That means, pick yourself up, get on with your life. Head up, walk tall. People who give you grief in life are often surprised when their victim acts like they don't give a flying fig, and that they've had no effect.
Speak to your doctor ofr a counsellor to get your anger out. Then get on with your life, strongly and positively. If he's in your geographical area, well hey that's a coincidence, and if he moves, well good riddance. But don't let a matter of geography spoil the rest of your life. You have bigger and better things to concentrate on.
And, despite what happens, he will always have given you a beautiful baby who you will love with all your heart. So he can't be all bad, can he?
Good luck. Chin up, strong steps forward ..

Answer 2

He's not worth it. Move on and love your baby, the way a mother knows how. He may come back, but in the end he will go again. Give yourself some time and think of all the positives, you learnt that he isn't sincere before the baby came along and you maybe got married or lived together. That'd hurt even more.

Answer 3

You obviously are mental ill. And you need to seek help. Why would a normal person be interested in a guy who is unstable and beats his girlfriends?. How are you going to raise your child with someone who has a criminal history. You should be happy that he is out of your life. Look at the bright side of things you don't have to go through abuse and you and your child will be safe without that man in your life. What you need to worry about is providing that child a happy and safe life. If you go after him and manage to get him fired he will come after you and god safe you then.. Don't be stupid and avoid getting yourself into trouble.

Answer 4

Okay, I read this twice and I still don't get it. You actually want him back for the baby’s sake and to start again? You want a dishrag dad like that around your child.

Oh yeah, that is what the kid will want and most importantly need to have around. You will offer your child a deadbeat dad and you as a mom that loves him more than the child. Hummmm.....I think I saw this episode on Jerry Springer for sure.

Answer 5

I think you need to grow up - you have described a woman
beating criminal and you want to ruin his life just to get him
back. Read your question Miss! If you were reading it
what advise would you give?

You have a baby to think of here and if you have any thought at all you will keep out of this mans life, concentrate on your
baby and make a future for the both of you!!!

Answer 6

You want to get back together with someone who has convictions (PLURAL!) for beating pregnant women? A man who has already abandoned a wife and three children and has now dumped you to date a seventeen year old?

For the sake of your unborn child, move on and wise up! It seems patently obvious that this is not a man you should want in your life.

Answer 7

Oh my God! What were you even doing with someone like that?! How could you even make a child with him?! People like you make me sick! How can you get pregnant without a stable relationship and with someone so not capable of being a decent parent!?
And the fact you want him back! Eugh! Have you no self worth?
You need to sort yourself out before you have that baby!

Answer 8

Isn't it illegal to be with a minor. I'm in the states and he could get into big trouble here. Now, why would you want a married man who seems to have no morales, no respect for vows and I don't get the impression he's taking care of those 3 kids. You think he wants the one you're having? Don't get so hung up on him 'cause you're pregnant. Do you really want him raising your baby?

Answer 9

Just let him go. If he has left u do you really want to trick him into getting him back? It sounds like you'd be better off without him anyway.
I think it is wishful thinking that he will leave town just because he has lost his job. He'd probably just get a new one.
If u have him back how do u know he won't beat you too? Think of your babies saftey if not your own.

Answer 10

what really jumped out at me was the part where you said he beat his 2 pregnant ex's....that's enough to say "right this is it" don't get revenge, just let him do his thing with this girl....your better off without him...he's a woman beater, so thatmakes him a spineless coward and a wimp... do you want this to happen to you? the best revenge you can give him is to show him that you can manage on your own with your child....hit him for child support and forget him...he's a thug...if you get him fired who's to say that he won't come to you and give you a beating....this guy is scum hun...you can do better...