I'm supposed to be getting married in September, but lately im not too sure if I should or not. I'm not even excited about the wedding... planning it seems to be a pain. And now I'm finding all these things that are wrong with him... ie. he doesn't show enough affection towards me. And I'm not sure if I can spend the rest of my life with someone who doesnt show me the affection I want. He's working on this, and getting better very slowly. And now I'm also thinking maybe I'm too young to get married (I'm 24, he's 28). That maybe I should wait and live life a little bit more before deciding if I should be married. The wedding is 4 months away...should I just marry him, or put the wedding off for a while? We've been engaged for 2 years, and together for almost 6. AND I just quit smoking... is this pre-wedding jitters... or what? I'm so confused.
2007-04-30 22:20:55 · 4 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go with your gut and put the wedding off until you are sure he isn't just being 'good' about giving you affection because you want him to. A lifetime is a long time to be putting up with someone you can't stand...so do yourself and him a favour and don't enter into it while you are half hearted. Trust me...if he was the right guy and you were ready nothing would be giving you pause..you would be happily planning and looking forward to it. Your gut always tells you the right thing...and yours is telling you in big letters...don't do it.
2007-04-30 22:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Postpone the wedding. This seems more then wedding jitters. Better to stop the wedding and wait then to get married and just have to get a divorce later on.
I was with my ex for 7 years. I was engaged for 4 years. We set a date and then I did not even want to plan the wedding. I keep thinking do I want to spend my life with someone who does not care how my day was. He did not want to spend time with me he rather play video games or watch sports. I ended the relationship and I am now engaged and getting married this year. I could not be happier with my choice. He treats me just like I always wanted and dreamed of.
Please take time to decide. If you are unsure just postpone the wedding. If it is meant to be he will be there when you are ready.
I wish the best for you. Take Care.
2007-05-01 03:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, take a deep breath. It sounds like you're not happy with the wedding planning. Who's planning the wedding? You? Or is it your mother? I don't think this is pre-wedding jittters, I think you may be seeing Red Flags about the groom, and you could be right, but try to be balanced. Remember what you want in a husband. Is this the guy? If you're sure it is, then take more control of the planning of the wedding, and if it's not, believe me, it's easier to call off a wedding than it is to get divorced.
2007-04-30 22:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
4COL, WHY SAY YES IF YOU STILL GOT SOME LIVING TO DO?
2007-04-30 22:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by roughdelicate 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋