Hi guys, I really need some good sound advice. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years, and we have our ups and downs as usual. My ex got in touch with me a while ago, please believe me when i say we didn't part on bad terms, we just fell away from each other. anyway, he told me that he was ready for whatever i wanted (told me this back in feb) he knows that i have a bf and is happy just being friends. so i forgot all about it and carried on with my bf as normal, but on sunday, it all just hit me and now i've been thinking about my ex constantly and I realise that I still love him. I know that my bf treats me badly but I cant help loving him too, even though he is going to Ibiza with his friend instead of me, he's been saying that he wants to stay over there to work (dont know if he's kidding or not) and before sunday I didn't want him to stay away, now i'm secretly hoping that he does, as it clears the way for me. I dont want to be the one to break us up.
2007-04-30 22:04:37 · 9 answers · asked by nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is tough...you said your current gf treats you badly...thats something i would really think about it. I would really think about what you want out of your current relationship it doesnt sound to solid just keep your ex around if you still love him..sometimes its best to just be friends and when the time is right things usually fall into place
2007-04-30 22:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by darealest323 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean about loving him even though he treats you badly. I am the same way when it comes to my bf. You love him but you hate him. Theres really nothing you can do about that. Anyway, the ex thing is what got me interested. You are always gonna have feelings for your ex, just make sure that you arent just doing this because you want to get back at your bf for being such a jerk. I had to break up with my bf 5 times before he got the picture that he wasnt treating me the way i thought I should be treated.
Even though he took his friend on that trip, doesnt mean he didnt think about taking you first, im sure he did. Sometimes guys just need to get away for a while, you know. I really dont think you guys should break up, because i know that you still care for him a lot. Just give it a little time and I know, if you start dropping a few hints here and there, he will get the picture.
2007-05-01 05:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you sound really confused. If I were you I would take a break from your current relationship, and not neccessairly break up. Say something like "Right now in our relationship, I am feeling confused and not sure of what I want. I love you and I want to be on good terms with you no matter what happens, but I just really need some time to focus on some things." Then just take some time for yourself to seriously think about what would truly make you happy. Follow your heart and good luck!
2007-05-01 05:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol the great ex story it always happen, just that we hardly get the chance to get back with them. I suggest that you honestly end the relationship that you have now before you even kiss your ex again for the fact that he is going to think bad about you no matter what he says, like this you show him that you are earning your place as the girlfriend and not one of his ex girlfriends who he can get a booty call when he feels like it. Besides if you engage with your ex know before ending your currant relationship because if you don't he will have that thin trust line when he is away, because of the fact that you messed around with him when you had someone and then if he is that someone and he is away he might just feel that if you did it with him you can/may do it with someone else so finish and start and most important don't lie
2007-05-01 05:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Patron (13 years of night life) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOH, YOU TRYING TO TAKE THE EASY WAY OUT AND GET SOME EX- CAKE TOO. FOR SHAME. IF THE CURRENT BF IS AN A$$ LEAVE HIM ALONE AND LET HIM KNOW THAT. CLOSURE, THE OLD bf CAME BACK THAT STIRRED UP OLD FEELINGS. HOPE HE TREATS YOU BETTER.
2007-05-01 05:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by roughdelicate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bf treated u so bad then y stay with him for 3 years....or did u just realize that he was treating u bad after the xbf came back into the picture.....if the x want you so bad what happen to him for the past 3 years......or is he trying to come back because having you is better than having nothing...not everybody is smart....question is are u?
2007-05-01 05:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by cilverpenni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-05-01 05:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by pradeep g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey--you two aren't married--if he goes--let him---if the ex is a nice guy--try to rekindle it---without all the past issues coming up---you are older and I hope he is matured also---if it works--fine--if not ... move on.
2007-05-01 05:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counselling to decide what you want.
2007-05-01 05:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋