A few years ago when I was a teen, I had this guy who was AMAZING in my life. We were very close & really were perfect for eachother. He is definetly the one who got away though, I was too dumb to not take him for granted. I just thought he would always be there you know? But time went by & we simply slipped away. I haven't even seen him or talked to him in 2 years now.
My problem is that I really LOVE him. Its a waste of my time now that he isnt even in my life (& I cant find him). Throughout my whole LIFE I haven't met even one person who could even compare to him. As cheesy as this is, his soul was just...unexplanably beautiful. There is NOTHING better in this world.
I am not really pining over him or anything still, but I just can't seem to meet anyone who can even come close to that feeling I get from just the thought of him. I know I need to move on--and in most ways I have, but its just the comparison part & its not like I purposely compare him
How do you replace PERFECTION?
2007-04-30 21:26:09 · 8 answers · asked by Intuitive Dreamer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Writing as a man who understands what it is to be in love with a soul may I share this beautiful comment about this kind of love. If you want the full article you will have to email me for it. I got it from a friend who is a Priest.
It is taken from a book review of The Dove's Necklace
"'The Dove’s Necklace' is about carnal love, not the mystical or spiritual variety, that’s crystal clear. Hence, it suffers from the limitations attendant upon any such transitory passions. Plato could have taught Ibn Hazm that, although carnal love is good, there is actually a higher, superior, better form of love. Heavenly Eros is immensely greater than its earthly counterpart. To be in love with a soul is better than being in love with a body. An idea as popular as the plague today, sure, but true and right nonetheless. True in our stupid, crude, vulgar culture as it was long ago for the sublime Plato. Because the soul is better than the body. A difficult truth, but the truth."
Now questions. Are you sure you are in love with his soul? And do you realise that if you *are* then this means you will have to be prepard to let him go but never must you forget him. You have not tried all ways to contact him but you can try if he means that much to you. If it is meant to then it will happen. As to "how do you replace perfection?" the truth is, there is no perfection this side of Heaven. You can remember it and hope it will return to you one way or another but it wasn't perfection. It may have been "as good as it gets" though. I can bookend two soul loves of my life. The first many years ago was a case of I "let her get away" but in time revealed why I had to let her go. And we remain very close friends to this day and she is also friends with my wife. The second love, which hurts more like yours, is more recent and for obvious reasons I could not have her even if she wanted me which she does not. Despite being one way this soul love exists and I am truly grateful for her friendship alone. If you really love this guy and he loves you back then you will get together. If on the other hand it is a one sided love then you will have to let him go in the physical sense but by all means love him for the rest of your life.
C S Lewis ( of The Lion the WItch and the Wardrobe) wrote: "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained." Remember this when your heart turns to him. I am convinced you will either see him again possibly soon and be with him or a new love will come to you and be as special. Meantime you can be thankful for the friendship you have had and he may stay in your heart. Bless your walk.
2007-04-30 22:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this person go! If you got into a relationship with someone you'll be thinking of him ;not your partner. Its better to have some one different; than perfect. I believe perfect would be boring. Different; is something new all the time...like surprises. Maybe the next guy just might be the one. Have an open mind first...then the heart.
2007-04-30 21:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by zeroice3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need closure and won t be able to move on till you get it Post this person on the web that you are looking for this person when you find him talk things over (and it will be what it will be) If you do not find him then you need to except people for who they are you miss out on alot by living in the past no one can be this person Mr Right might have gotten away again but you are so focused on compareing people to this person in the past that you are not living your full potential in the here and now Live for the moment
2007-04-30 21:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all snap out of this sick puppie-like devotion.
Then accept there is a time and place for everything and everybody in this life. Your "Mr Perfect" would probably be nothing to a normal girl. You are obviously obsessive or cant find anyone else, if you think other guys have to be like him then you'd better get ready for a lonely life.
2007-04-30 21:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That "perfect" person is only in your imagination. Trust me, from my own experiences, you will eventually run into him/her again, and you will be SOOOO glad that you let that one get away. You will know when the time is right for you. When you are that happy with yourself, you will find someone to share it with. Make yourself happy first, then worry about a relationship with someone else.
2007-04-30 21:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by i8thr2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to realize that you don't love this guy, you love the relationship that you once had.
You don't even know him anymore, so how could you love him??
And sorry to say it, but he wasn't perfect, noone is.
There would of been some things you didn't like, but never got the chance to see.
Stop comparing other guys, and let this guy go.
If he was the ONE he would of never left, no matter what...
2007-04-30 21:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by lami_by_design 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO
BECAUSE THAT GUY WAS THAT GUY AND NO OTHER GUY WILL EVER BE HIM. PERIOD AND DONT GET MAD AT THE NEW ONES FOR NOT BEING LIKE THE OLD GUY. THEY ARE ALL DIFFERENT GUYS.
2007-04-30 21:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by roughdelicate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeling lonely and get out there and start dating.forget him his long gone.
2007-04-30 21:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by The Samster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋