what is the best way to come out of grief?

Answer 1

I think that the best way is to allow yourself to experience the stages of grieving and to give yourself time to heal.

Answer 2

My youngest son died four years ago. The grief is profound.
Let yourself grieve. You will learn ways to cope. It took me three years to put out pictures of him. My daughter had pictures of him in every ro om of hers.
I find that if I have a bad day, I let myself experience the grief. It feels like I will never pull out of it. But I remind myself that I pull out of it.
I am working on making a scrap book about him. I don't want anyone to forget him.

I also go to a grief class for parents who have lost children.
Which is hard, but in the long run It will help me.

I know I will never get over his death. But it will get easier as time goes on.

Make sure you don't isolate yourself. When you feel really bad you go for a brisk walk.

Get some counseling

Answer 3

I feel the best way to come out of grief is to talk about it and even cry and there maybe some people who may not want to talk about it but tell them that it will be a big help to you if you could talk to them about it and they may even feel better in the end too.

Answer 4

Grief
That is a tough one! Everyone’s grieving time is different… and it also depends on the loss. This is my experience. When I lost the first man I truly loved because he was a womanizer, it took me a year (and 25 extra pounds) to get over him… partly because I felt like a fool and partly because he was doing my roommate and another woman, long distance, who was pregnant! After a year, I slowly began to heal, though it took much longer to heal my heart.

But when my brother died unexpectedly, it took many, many years to recover. My sister still hasn't because of circumstances and her inability to say goodbye. The lack of closure can slow healing. So can the failure to let go. In 2001, my family experienced 5 deaths in 7 months. Within the next year, we lost 5 more. The shock and grief generated was absolutely overwhelming! After 5 years, I decided I wanted to recover. I wanted to honor those lost by living again. I needed to break free from family, for we unknowingly fed each other's sorrow. I had to leave all I knew and travel across the US and start a new life to recover. I am in that process even now… but, Love, each day gets easier. Then one day you smile. Then you start to feel again and even laugh.

Time is the healer of all things. And I had meditation and God. I won't preach, for I believe each must choose their own path. These are just the things that helped me. I also noticed that when I chose to move on, it seemed to give permission to my family, rippling out in healing waves, as each adjusts, adapting to the changes. The hole ripped into our world nearly destroyed us… but I see things differently now. I see how events, even bad ones that shatter us, can be turned to good.

I realized that pain can bestow the gift of healing empathy. I have been able to connect with people, caring about them in a whole new way. My love for family and loved ones is much deeper and I truly appreciate what I have now. As my grief lifts, I feel things so much deeper. I have worked hard to change my life. Change is one of the hardest things I've ever done. But doing so has inspired others to risk change. I plan to enjoy what life I have left. I want to write, go site seeing, do yoga, meditate, and exercise. Perhaps I'll even eventually go whitewater rafting. These are things I would never have considered before. I enjoy life in a whole new way. Even the wind on my skin gave me such joy today. I hope to inspire my children to not be afraid to face pain so they can grow even more beautiful than they are now.

Bless you, Love, if you are facing grief! I know that everything can be so dark… confusing… surreal. But I promise, it WILL pass. And you WILL rise from the ashes.

I hope this helps some, Love. May God be with you. Take care and God bless.

Answer 5

Time, talking to close friends, and a grief support group.

Stay away from drugs, give yourself time to heal and adjust, get good exercise and healthy food.

Answer 6

You have to come out at some point...why not make today the day you free yourself from that inner grief and tell the world your deep secret...

"I'm gay!"