I have been with my boyfriend for a year in a half, and everything has always been great, i love him more than anything and i know he feels the same about me. He has always been a good boyfriend, buying me things, taking me places, has never cheated and never lies to me... he is really great and i love him so much. The only problem is that sometimes he can get really mad if i dont do what he wants and a couple months ago he went through a stage where he would get real mad and sometimes he would hit me.. but he claims he doesn't hit me he "smacks" me but its still wrong either way. Well he stopped doing it for a while and i really thought he was changing because i know he truely does love me and hes so perfect most of the time, but recently he got mad at me and he did it again, but not quite as bad as usual and he really has been trying to be good about it.. and now he says he will never do it again, and i know he loves me i just dont know what to do, any advice?
2007-04-30 19:32:53 · 13 answers · asked by *Cassie* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Calmly talk to him, and let him know if he does do it again, you will leave!!!! Make it clear that you will though, like make sure he believes you! This way he will hopefully think about it before he does it again!!!! But if he does do it again, you do have to leave him, cos one day you will get hurt seriously!!!
2007-04-30 19:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tamika W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just sit him down and look him straight in the eye and tell him that if he ever raises a hand to you again in any way, that you and he are history. But, you have to mean it and be ready to go. You can't play games here. If you set the rules now and stick to them, you won't have problems later.
Don't play the "one more time" game three more times. It will only get worse over time if you do. It never gets better.
You can always pop him right in the mouth when he's not expecting it. Draw blood and he might get the idea.
Good Luck
2007-05-01 02:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run, please.
learn to love yourself enough not to put up with that for one minute.. he gets mad if you don't do what he wants.?.
Why ever give anyone your power?
RuN Please..NOW, it will only get worse, been there, done that, it doesn't change..thousands of woman have asked this question and not run, the ones alive wish they did, I am so sorry, I wish I could say ''well he is different'' ... from all those guys out there that think they love someone, because they found someone they can control, and it feels good,
Love feels good, it does not leave you with this question.!...
Leave him..NOW, smacks, hit, push, shove, verbal, doesn't matter abuse is abuse, it gets worse, every-time.
RUN...get some support, learn to like you more, so you don't do it again
2007-05-01 02:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn to deal with his anger in other way. There are anger management classes that he could attend, or you could both go to couples counseling.
Do not let him continue to hit you, or even push you around. One day he may accidentally lame you or kill you.
Do you want to end up marrying him and seeing your children suffer through watching him mistreat you or being mistreated by him? Either he gets help, or you need to leave him.
They all say that they are sorry and that they will never do it again. Until they find another way of dealing with the anger, they will do it again. Mine used to actually cry every time begging for forgiveness and promising me that it would never happen again. Twice he put me into the hospital with bruises to the brain. I constantly ended up with black eyes,busted lips and scars on my body. Finally he took a shot gun to my daughter. That is when I finally found the courage to leave him. It started off the same way you are describing. I never dreamed that it would escalate into tortures of hell. Please don't stay unless he agrees to and actually gets help.
2007-05-01 02:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must immediately leave this guy. He's trouble. Abusive boyfriends are always like this, they beat you up then claim it was not really a beating but 'playing' or 'play fighting'. It's all a load of bull. Afterwards they treat you really well and buy you gifts and stuff to make you forgive them. If you do, you are giving them permission to violate you again. They think it's ok and they will get away with it.
You must ditch him. If he tries to bother you, please call the police and inform his family about this.
2007-05-01 02:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a serious issue. I know they did it in whenever but its not right. If you truly believe he loves you then he will stop. Maybe try talking with him, explaining that this is a serious issue - and that he needs to control his temper, if he doesn't though and this continues then I'm sorry but you shouldn't have to put up with that. Apart from that this isn't much else you can do. Hope this helps a little.....
2007-05-01 02:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by ~(Tinker) Belle~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may love you but that doesn`t stop him from hitting you. It may stop for a while but will probably start again with more aggression each time get out now while you still can the longer you stay the harder it will be to leave
2007-05-01 02:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by kevina p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will only get worse, get out while you still can. anyone who truly loves you and respects you would not hit you. Ask yourself the question, if you had a daughter or sister in the same situation, what would you tell them to do?
2007-05-01 02:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is he physically abusing your by "smacking" you he is also mentally abusing you. You need to get out now. It will get worse because when they say it won't happen again, it always does. Get out now before it is to late!
2007-05-01 03:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you keep asking this question over and over you get the same answers are you just stupid? do you want to get smacked around? or you keep asking wating for someone to say its okay to get smacked around. I could tell you exactly what's going to happen if you email me and we chat my email is miked452001@yahoo.com
2007-05-02 01:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋