kisses you everyday and hugs you does this mean he likes you?
My bf of 2 months and I live together (it just clicked, I dont need lectures) and Iam not used to being treated this way as my ex was a beater and wasnt terribly affectionate. I left him for this guy.
Now "jake" is the very affectionate, in private and in public and I dont know what to believe. We dont always have sex either, only every few days and when we do fool around and nothing happens I get pissed cause I really want him and his back is too sore. I feel rejected then and wonder why he even bothers saying nice things to me...I dont know what to believe and doubt is already starting to eat at my mind...he is the sweetest and nicest guy ever and always tells me im beautiful everyday and every morning before he goes to work.
He even messages me while he is at work on our my space pages.
Why cant I believe him?
I want to but I am too freaked out by him, cause he seems too nice...ugh.
btw he is 37 and im 26.
2007-04-30 19:25:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you believe you left your last relationship?.......
Obviously being beaten and not given affection meant you weren't loved the way you wanted to be loved...Right?
So what do you think "jake's" actions mean?......
In my opinion it sounds like he's a normal guy who happens to have alot of affection and care for you.....there's nothing suss about what he's doing.....
As far as" nothing happens" goes, if anyone should be concerned, it should be him because he obviously has an issue with his back and all you think is that you're not geting any and feel rejected.....
No offence sweetie, It's not all about you.
If you care for him as much as he seems to care for you, you need to start looking at things from his side as well.
He's not "Too nice", It's that your ex wasn't "nice enough" Isn't that why you left to be with "jake".
Maybe you need time alone to figure out what you expect from a relationship and to find yourself..... You've obviously been through a challenge in your last relationship and you've gone from one extreme to another.
Chi Chi x.
2007-04-30 19:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you have been in tumultious relationships, it's normal to question a new lovers motives.
For one, how one performs during sex has no indication on how much he loves you. Though, if you feel unfulfilled, you should talk to him about what you both can do to make it better for the both of you.
Second, you seem to have moved into this relationship too fast. You also question because, in reality, you don't know him 100%. He obviosuly shows affection physically whereas I assume the beater was verbally affectionate. Saying things like, "I'm sorry I hit you. You know I love you....."
Third, you're already in the relationship. If you weren't, i'd say to give yourself time to just be with you & to lay of serious dating for a month or two. But you're in. You don't believe him because you're afraid to. You're afriad to completly give yourself to another again just to be betrayed. I've been there, to an extent. Don't let fear drive you. This relationship could end up bad & yet another lesson, or it could be the best thing that ever happened to you, so my advice is to just love. One day at a time. Be open, communicate, & Good luck.
2007-04-30 19:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by judy bo-booty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that your past experience really freaked you out? How could I deserve someone as nice as Jake? You are prone to question. even doubt. Can life be this good? Your are very needy and that is OK, but you can't interpret anything Jake does as a form of rejection. That's past behavior. What he tells you all the time that you are sexy, gorgeous, and beautiful it is as true as true can be and women would kill to hear this once a month.
2007-04-30 19:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned from past mistakes that its never to early to say a girl is beautiful ot gorguesous girls never get tired of hearing was what i was told by my girlfriend so i think that if a guy likes you then why the hell shouldnt he say you are gorgoues and if he really likes you it won't matter wether your are naked or dressed like an amish person he is going to think your beautiful
2016-05-17 22:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way.... if he only told you that you are beautiful when he wanted sex, then it is less believable. Enjoy the attention. I am seeing someone now that tells me every day that I am beautiful and sexy. It took a little while to get used to, but it is very nice to hear.
2007-04-30 19:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have a lack of trust since your last boyfriend abused you, I'm really sorry about that by the way. If this is the case, You have to realize that this is a good guy, Hes not going to hurt you, And just wants to love you. Once you trust him you should let him repair old scars :)
2007-04-30 19:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it soudns like he may have mroe experience than you. or maybe hes not the best at sex or something but he seems genuinley nice. ur probably still recovering from ur loser ex who doesnt seem very nice and it seems like u should believe him. maybe its such a change ur just nervous and apprehensive. i don't know but give it time. if ur not feeling it talk it over with him or cut ur ties and start afresh. maybe u just need time to recover. oh if u have any advice for relationships please go onto my profile and answer my question i could do with some advice from more experienced people :) goodluck!
2007-04-30 19:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by munchyblonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called Manipulation...that's what I see from this end. You really should've had some time to yourself if you've been in a abusive relationship. This gentleman could be playing on your weakness's...really, think about what's going on. Since your "gut" is telling you something else...it might be best to listen..Good Luck
2007-04-30 19:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Pixie48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your boyfriend would probably be classified as 'dream boyfriend' material by any other gurl so treasure what you have and dun think so much. Remember that no one in this world has any obligation to be nice to you at all so if someone is nice to you, you really ought to hold on to what you've got.
2007-04-30 20:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh course he likes you, you nut case! How could he treat you like that and not.
As for his sore back, he can function standing up. You just need to get all sexy and smelling good and just rape him.
Make him like it.
Good Luck
2007-04-30 19:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋