We went out for 2 months, broke up for 2 months, and now we're back together. He's the one who broke up with me... and during the past two months i have basically just been sad beyond all belief, because i missed him so much. he asked me back out a few days ago and when we see each other in person everything is perfect. but i am getting a bit worried all of a sudden.
i tell him i miss him, and he doesn't say anything back. he says i should know if he misses me or not, that he shouldn't have to tell me.
i am just so afraid hes going to break up with me again because he knew that i still liked him during the 2 months we broke up. he said he went back out with me because he wanted to, it wasnt just for me...
is it wrong to still worry about him breaking up with me again? what should i do when i see him/talk to him on the phone next? and how do i get this worrying feeling to go away? or is it a good thing that its there?
2007-04-30 17:46:13 · 15 answers · asked by sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's how it is. Obviously he cares about you or he wouldn't came back to you. However, since you all were only together for two months in the first place you might be moving a little faster than him. B y saying how you miss him and everything else. It sounds like this guy is starting to get scared away. Try slowing it down a notch other wise you might push him too far away
2007-04-30 17:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a low self esteem as evident in what you wrote. Why does this man mean so much? The rejection and pain you felt when he broke up with you is expected. But now you have to deal with the pain that it may happen again. Is this guy worth this? If you really think he is then you need some help to get over this fear of breakup. I definitely think you need to get some help from a counselor. You may find you have other things to work on. Best of luck!
2007-04-30 17:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by bighelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to worry... not to a point where it's eating away at you inside... but you're gonan worry no matter what... me and my girlfriend... well this is the third time we have gone out... the first time it was for 6 months... the second time it was for about 2 months... and now we have been going out for about a month a month and a half... but i dont let my mind think about the bad things... i see her beautiful face and everything good in our relationship comes to mind... me being with her, holding her, etc. so every time you start to think of bad just think of him holding you in his arms and never letting go... and keep doing that until it happens naturally... and keep smiling no matter what =)
cause if you smile im sure he will smile =)
and if he smiles and is happy, than you should be happy knowing that he is happy =)
~haloguitarist =)
2007-04-30 18:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by Haloguitarist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not having a good feeling for this relationship maybe you need to priorize who is most important here and remember how much pain you felt when he broke up with you, i guess you are the one that knows better than us what is this getting back together is bringing you so if you don´t feel comfortable just go ahead and break it!
2007-04-30 17:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called a break up because it's broke. Trust your gut feeling because it is usually correct. You don't need to be putting your self through the worry. If you continue to date him, maybe you should date other people so that your eggs aren't all in his basket. Good luck!!
2007-04-30 17:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Illuminamy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get this clear sense youre INSECURE.....and this is something that puts people OFF slap-jaw quick and gets them running bolt fast out the door like Road Runner....beep beep.
Positively deal with your insecurities and the rest will clear up well in time.
2007-04-30 17:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to hit the single scene again. Find yourself someone else to be interested in and dont waste your time on him.
Your still young right? Theres plenty out there to see.
2007-04-30 17:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Candice C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, he IS going to break up with you again. He's trying to keep you as a back-up. Don't fall for it. Don't be disrespected twice by the same person!!
2007-04-30 17:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God---get a grip--miss him after two months and get back---alll gooey over this guy???Find a guy who wants a real relationship and will appreciate you.
2007-04-30 17:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing the instinct is there. Listen to it. This guy will be gone again soon.
2007-04-30 17:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by twinmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋