I tryed talking to her, but she insists that she can keep it a secret, do i step in and tell a consoluer?
2007-04-30 17:41:42 · 41 answers · asked by Brittany 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
How can she keep it a secret once she starts showing that she's pregnant? If it was my daughter, I'd want to know....so I could help her. I'd be more angry if she didn't tell me. Hopefully she comes to her senses and tells her mother.
2007-05-01 05:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by sassysusie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is that everyone not judge this girl. I challenge everyone to look in the mirror and say that they have NEVER made a mistake or a bad choice.
Sugar, I know you are her friend, and she asked you to keep a secret. Normally I would do as my friend asked me to. However, in this case, you would be doing your friend a favor. There is no reason why you cannot inform a counselor at school ANONYMOUSLY about this. Your name doesn't even need to be brought into this situation. I know your friend is going to be upset and angry, but how long is she going to be able to hide a pregnancy? Eventually her belly is going to show and what is she going to do then? Run away? She cannot get an abortion without her parent's consent because of her age.
Pregnancy is not something to be taken lightly. Do you know that some pregnancies have very serious complications that can sometimes kill the baby, or even worse, the mother? Yes this is not something that happens often, but what if something happened to your friend and you had done nothing about it? You would feel terrible and so would those around your friend, like her family.
Your friend made a choice to sleep with a boy and now is suffering the consequences. She is now afraid and has confided in you, but is asking you to keep something inside that is way too big for you to keep a secret. It was only natural of her to confide in you but it wasn't fair for her to put this burden on you to keep a secret. This is too much for you to handle on your own sugar and I think you need to take action on this immediately.
My advice is to please tell a trusted adult so that your friend can receive the medical care she needs, along with the emotional support. She might be super mad at you but when she is older she will thank you for being so concerned that you tried to get help for her.
2007-05-01 05:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by PrincessOfFun35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow how sad that a 7th grader is in this situation. You are a good friend and you know what...you may end up being targeted by telling on her but look at it as loving and caring about her rather then ratting on her. She needs protection and so does her baby.
My 16 year old neice hid her pregnacy from her mom until she went into labor...she thought she was only 6 mos and well she was wrong. I saw her a few days before she had him and I could not even tell..baggy clothes!!!!! Luckily she had a healthy baby.
and to the pepper guy....well if it is medias fault where the heck were this 12 or 13 year olds parents when she was having sex. My 13 year old is not put in any situation that would allow him to have sex at his age. Maybe she was raped by an adult which would make that person a criminal. Stop blaming the media and start blaming it on lack of supervision.
2007-05-02 02:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off no 7th grader should even be in this situation. Seeing how your friend is in this situation & very young I will try my best to help. You cannot keep pregnancy a secret, someone is bond to find out. It is unsafe for your friend not to tell someone. Does she know the risk she is putting the baby & herself in? Does the father know she is pregnant? I think you better step up soon & tell someone because something can happen to your friend if she doesn't get adult help. If you do tell someone yes tell an adult alright? Before you step in try one last time to convince her to tell an adult & make sure to add that she is putting not only her life in danger but the unborn baby inside her. If she still says no then I would step in. At first she may hate you for telling, but later in life she will thank you.
2007-05-02 09:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should try to convince her to talk to her parents or someone else and tell her that you will be there for support if she needs it and she will, if that does not work tell her that you will tell someone wether it be a teacher your parents or whatever. not only is the baby at risk of premature birth, low birth wieght it is also in serious risk of being a still born if not being totally miscarried. this girls life is in danger also she may not be pregnant, she may have what they call a false pregnancy that is when her body tells her that she is pregnant but in reality she is not, or she may be pregnant in her filopian tubes and if that is the case they can actually erupt and she could bleed to death, if she miscarries she also may bleed to death, if she has a still born her body will throw itself into labor and she will probably start to panic because she will not know what to do. she can get diabetes or high blood pressure which can too harm her and the baby. she needs to see a DR AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. she needs to start taking iron and neonatle vitamins to make sure the baby is health and that she will be health when the baby comes. she is only a 7th grader and she will need all the support she can get because i know she is scared. i hope all is ok with her and the baby and good luck tryin to help you are a good friend for caring
2007-04-30 19:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by treys girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk her into telling her parents right away. This isn't something you can keep a secret for very long. If she refuses to tell her parents, you may need to talk to the school counselor. She needs help. She is scared and doesn't know what to do and being pregnant doesn't go away for 9 months.
2007-04-30 18:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That is a tough decision especially if she is you friend. Yes, I would honestly step in and tell someone, there can be so many compications if she doesn't go to the Dr. regular, or take her prenatel vitams, there is alot at risk especially if she is 12 or 13 years old. Her little body might not be ready to carry a child since she is still one herself! I am totally freaking out!!!!
2007-05-01 03:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Deanna W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously if she's in 7th grade and pregnant she has very poor decision making abilities. You need to talk to someone ASAP let her know that she has to tell someone or you will it's not a good idea for her to ignore this. She'll not only be jepardizing the health of the baby but the health of herself. theres alot that goes on when you have a baby.
2007-04-30 17:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is going to have to tell someone at some point. Maybe you can offer to go with her to talk to the school counselor or a teacher that she trusts? Or even offer to be with her when she talks to her parents? She is going to need a friend more than ever... this is going to be hard for her no matter what she does, and she isn't going to be able to keep it a secret for long. Please do your best to advise her to tell someone, and if she still doesn't, then you may want to consider telling a counselor or teacher and asking for their advice.
2007-04-30 17:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do you have to tell an adult. You could start with your mum or teacher or councillor. But i warn you now. You will have a friend that is very angry with you but she will get over it. Some times we have to do wrong by our friends to do what is right. The life of the unborn baby is at stake. This girl needs support of her family and medical help. Complications are highly likely at her age if she is unchecked
2007-04-30 19:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋