my little sister is in year 7 now and she is very, very annoying. She is incredibly "inquistisive" as she like to rummage through my room and search for things she is intrested in, she like to peep in my monitor and see what I am doing, and when I tell her to stop doing something like: "Can you keep your clapping down, please?" I get response like, "shut up, you faggard!" or no response at all.
How can I deal with that?
2007-04-30 17:18:13 · 7 answers · asked by Visser 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am not one of those skinny, tiny kids with their huge musclar kid sisters, I could beat her up if I wanted to, but I don't want to use my fists.
2007-04-30 17:19:48 · update #1
First trace down the source of "shut up, you faggard!"
A seven year old would normally not know such language and that needs to be addressed quickly.
You either need to keep her out of your room or find something that she can play with.
In her eyes you are a very interesting person and almost a mythical figure. So she is interested in what you are doing and what things you have. So let her in a little and show her some of your stuff, and find something that she can play with without damaging it. I once had my little brother pull all the tape out of a recording tape.
At this age she is far smarter than a dog and you should be able to get down to her level and relate with her. Physically dropping into a squat will help. Then you can try to reason with her, pointing out what she can play with and what she can’t touch. You should also move such valuables out of her reach.
She can watch your monitor and probably she won’t understand very much, except the pretty colors. A lively screen saver could entertain her for 10 minutes. It is hard dealing with some one so young, but at this stage in her life she is eager to please as well as pushing her boundaries to see what she can get away with. When you see her doing something bad you need to reprimand her and then put her outside of your room and make her stay in her own room for a time out. After a few times she should get the hint.
You don’t want to beat her because that will make her fear you and start to hate you and you don’t want that. But, you need to be firm with her when she is being bad and then you can be a little easier when she is being good.
When you have a child running around the house it is important to be working with each other to give her the same rules, the same tolerance, and the same rewards and punishments. You also need to talk with your parents about your problem. “I don’t mind her coming into my room, I do mind her ruining my stuff. I also don’t want her going into my cabinets and drawers. Can you please get me some child-proof devices so that I can keep her out of trouble?”
This should help, but most of all you need to give her your patience. She is not going to grow up overnight and you will have to deal with the problems as they come up.
2007-04-30 17:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just looks up to you that is why she is always in your room and trying to see what you are doing? She calls you names because she doesn't want you to know that she feels that way. Have you ever tried talking to your parents about how she acts? Maybe they need to tell her that she doesn't need to be rude and when you are in your room she needs to allow you to have some privacy. But at the same time you should try to spend some time with her play a game or something, she might just be wanting some attention from you.
2007-05-01 00:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by nae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get a different lock to your room. You also have to remember that she's only 7, and kids like to experiment everything. Bugging you is just her way of playing with her big brother.
2007-05-01 00:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by chantyguzman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents. if you dont want to, you can just lock the room so that she wont get in. or you could always use words and give her a good tongue-lashing.
i've had that kind of experience too. im the oldest in the family and i have two little brothers. when they were young, i scared them and tamed them. they only listen to me now and my parents praised me for being such a disciplinarian! xD good luck!
2007-05-01 00:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~jaNe~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lock for your door and discuss your lack of privacy with your parents....
2007-05-01 00:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents or talk to her and tell her how you feel she probally just wants attention my brother does the same and he is 6
2007-05-01 00:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
join the club.
most families have one of those brats running around the house...
live with it
2007-05-01 00:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋