I'm 25 and have been seeing this guy for 9 months. In the beginning he wanted a relationship but I wasn't ready. He always told me how I was the best thing ever to happen to him and he wanted take me home for Thanksgiving to his parent's house. I wasn't ready for that step at the time-we'd only been together a few months. All he wanted was to be with me.
For awhile now, I've been ready to be committed with him but he says that he doesn't have time for a relationship.
I now only see him maybe 4 times a month because he works 50 hours a week and goes to school. However, when I see him, he still talks about how he wants me to meet his parents, and how he tells his mom all about me. He said he understands that I'm upset that he can't give me more time, but he just doesn't have it...but it would kill him to lose me.
He seems to have time for about everything else but me. I'm understanding of his work but 4 times a month? What's up with the change?
2007-04-30 16:58:01 · 13 answers · asked by VivienLeigh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
50 hours of work and school is a huge chunk of his life. You need to accept what he says as the truth and step outside your own needs a little.
Your perspective seems too one sided and critical. First he's too into you, now that he has other important obligations and responsibilities, you're upset? People are not yo-yo's to be played with when you find it convenient. You need to expect that his life and obligations are important to him, just as yours are too you, and give it some more time.
4 times a month right now is not unreasonable, considering his work and school. Tell him you'd like to meet his family when the time is right and leave it at that. If you still haven't met them by mid summer, THEN you have the right to question his sincerity.
2007-04-30 17:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give that guy a break - 50 hr week plus school. Its not surprising that you guys see each other 4 times a month. Cut him some slack if you are still interested in him. Looks like the poor guy has got far too much on his plate at the moment.
2007-05-01 00:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by celan99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about it. U guys have only been together for 9 months so i would consider that a new relationship and in my opinion, a new relationship should spend as much time with each other as possible. Spending less time together at the begining of a relationship could put ur relationship in danger. I would recommended you to talk to him and see if he can work out his schedule with you.
Good luck to ya
2007-05-01 00:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by sad guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't know. Sounds like he either isn't interested or has other "distractions". Could be that he has another woman or simply that he is preoccupied with work or other things in his life. I would be honest with him and tell him how you are feeling...what can you lose by telling him that you feel neglected and that you feel he has time for everything but you? He should try to make more time for you...if he is willing to, then it would show that he really wants to...if not, then I would tell you that something else is going on with him (and likely, it's not good). I wouldn't want him stringing you along. It may be in your best interest, if he isn't willing to give a little more, to cut your losses and find someone who thinks you ARE worthy of their time. Good luck!
2007-05-01 00:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Beavis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...that's it. Men always place a priority of their work, no matter what! Especially if it is at the beginning of the career. That's a reality. You have to rethink whether you can cope with that. If otherwise, dont waste ur time. They're not going to change. In movie, perhaps!
2007-05-01 00:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by ni2penang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works 50 hrs/week and goes to school, then you seriously should be happy for ANY time he spends with you. That is EXTREMELY hard!
But if you really want to push him away so he has less and less time for you, then just keep nagging him to spend more time.
2007-05-01 00:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is losing interest in you, go and find some body
why should he be interested in a girl like you , who resists for relationship any way?
take action at the right moment, some things will go for ever
2007-05-01 00:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kewl guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through a similar situation....men i freaking don't understand them...they talk about how they wanna meet the right girl and settle down...and then i think they meet that girl and they get scared...and then they back off..it's so messed up....the guy needs to make up his mind and stop playing games
2007-05-01 00:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by BabyBlues 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are tired of sitting home, so maybe it's time for you both to date others until things change.
2007-05-01 00:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get yrself in work for 50 hours and see, yet you also can more time for him more then what he is spending now with u ?
2007-05-01 00:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by patadiakm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋