when your relationship ends do you really want to know who he/she was cheating with or how many times and who else knew about it?
Do you really want to know how many people he/she has been with in the past?
Do you really want to know if he/she ever tried to tak to anybody else you know or think your friend(s) is cute?
Do you really want to know if he/she was with somebody during your brief break up or fight?
Do you really want to know if he/she is faithful?
What is really interesting is that i know more than a few people who do not want to know the answer to the last one.
How about you?
2007-04-30 16:50:55 · 13 answers · asked by h8ucrazee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes , how else can you learn from your mistakes and know who to trust!
2007-04-30 16:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*when your relationship ends do you really want to know who he/she was cheating with or how many times and who else knew about it?
YES, definately. Even if it means I'm a nosy person.
*Do you really want to know how many people he/she has been with in the past?
No, that doesn't matter much to me, BUT- if they want to keep that from me, then it might be a red flag if i'm in a serious relationship with them.
*Do you really want to know if he/she ever tried to talk to anybody else you know or think your friend(s) is cute?
No, that doesn't matter either. They are just friends... hopefully.
*Do you really want to know if he/she was with somebody during your brief break up or fight?
Yeah, because it shows how needy they are.
*Do you really want to know if he/she is faithful?
Yes. Very VERY important.
2007-04-30 23:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess I would like to know if she was faithful . .mainly to see how much my radar was good.
I can often tell these things about others, and sometimes about people near me.
I guess I don't need the exact details, but knowing me I would eventually get some if not all the details.
I have not yet had to negotiate an open relationship .. but I might in the future.
I think keeping one's promaces and/or faithfully renogatiating them (or getting dumped) is more important to me than most staying monogamous for the wrong reasons.
2007-05-01 00:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he would ever cheat on me, i don't think i'd want to know who he was cheating with.. or how many times. the main point is he cheated - and i was a fool for not noticing earlier.
i think i do want to know how many people he's been with sexually.. it's important to know what he's been exposed to so that i know what i'm being exposed to. i just haven't gathered the courage to ask him yet
i didn't WANT to know that one, but unfortunately i do :( it doesn't bother me too much anymore though.. i KNOW nothing would happen between them.
we don't break up or fight :P
he better be faithful....
2007-04-30 23:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think although it is more hurtful to know it is usually natural to want to know. I think the ones that don't want to know, especially if the relationship is still in progress are going by the saying "what you don't know won't hurt you." well that saying isn't true because 9 out of 10 times it will.
2007-05-01 00:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kandie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just goes to prove, if you don't have trust, you don't have anything. But to answer your question(s), I think it's only human nature to want to know these things after a breakup, but the reason why "couples" may not want to know on the fidelity issue is because sometimes ignorance [or, denial of the truth] is truly bliss.
2007-05-01 00:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't want to know because then you will be going over the information over and over in your mind...and every time it will hurt again.
2007-04-30 23:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is over, who really cares? Not me...
2007-04-30 23:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lalalalalala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont want to know so it wont hurt me. besides, the relationship is over so move on!
2007-05-01 00:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by ~jaNe~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't want to know. if any of that stuff happened to me (which i'm sure it has, with a couple people) you just gotta move on and know you deserve better, its not worth your emotions to stress about.
2007-04-30 23:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by chaispicetea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋