My boyfriend lost interest?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he told me yesterday that he dosent love me as much and has felt this way for a year. So i was upset but he said not to let it bother me cause he still does love me just "not as much"i am so confused, should i be different around him? He also said he regrets telling me now cause i am making a big deal out of it but why shouldnt i ?? HELP ME

Answer 1

ofcourse you should make a big deal out of this....i mean like the next year he could tell you something different like "since my feelings were fading away for you i had/having and affair....I thought i should let you know since we have been together for so long but my feelings are not as strong for you as they used to be..."
get the point?

Answer 2

Well usually with long relationships it tends to die down a little every now and then. Some couples tend to spice up their relationship. The term used a lot is "the spark is gone", the only advice i really can give you is if he loves you or not and when i mean love, not like a brother sister love, like the way he felt the first 2 months about you, where he cant stop thinking about you and wondering if u were feeling the same way. Dont forget love comes and go like any other emotions, we are all human and its life. Just remember Life is too Short, dont spend all of it wondering if her feels the same way as you do. Dont want to be 10 years with 3 children contemplating if u made the right choice. Heart wants what the Heart wants. Good Luck

Answer 3

If he's losing interest, doing "certain" things isn't going to save the relationship. I presume you mean things of a sexual nature, which I can assure you, will only make it last a little longer but will still bring about the end. You need to be able to connect with him on a more intimate level(intimate does not equal sexual). Find time to do something you both enjoy, take him to a movie he wants to see, specifically ask him to spend some time together, just you and him, so you can get to know one another better. I can appreciate the fact you're trying to lose wait and dress nice, but remember there's more to a relationship than sex and looks. Have you tried asking him what's bothering him? Good luck!

Answer 4

most ment think that the most important thing to us is stupid or not so important for them and the things we think is small they usually blow out of preportion, here is an example: i work for a medical company and we had this meeting, well my boss told me that i had to ride with this other guy that works there with us (but usually is not in the office) to pick all the food and deserts up for the guests at the meeting (he was payin for it but didn't know what to get so they sent me), well i later that evening told my husband that i had to go with him and pick all this up, he started rantin and ravin because i had to ride with a guy, i mean i was just makin conversation right this is like not a big deal to me well it is to him and he got soooooo angry, but i dont care because i did nothing wrong. for you and him to have a honest relationship you both need to be truthful no matter the outcome, he may have not meant it the way that you feel he did and then again it may be 100 % the way you think. most times men just dont know what they are talkin about and makes fools of themselves ie my husband :D if it bothers you as much as seems, and it seems that you should be, you need to sit him down and ask him exactly what he meant by it, if he cant talk to about it then you may need to see a therapist, only because you may not have good communication and that can be a big problem. if that dont work i'm not sure what else to tell you, most everyone will tell you to talk to him, but we all do not know how he is as to regards to personality or even if he is the type to want to work at a relationship. the best thing to do though is just to be truthful with each other and cherish you time together because you never know what might happen in 5 mins

hope every thing goes well with you and God Bless :)

Answer 5

Well, it's sad that you've given him 6 years of your life, but better to know now than after you got married. So how do you feel about your relationship. Do your seem compatible or what. My son was married for about 6 years and said he and his wife made good roomates, but there wasn't much happening on the physical side and it was almost nil. Well, what do you know, he found a girl friend who can't keep her hands off him and now his wife's, his child's and his mother's life is a living hell. Guess they are happy because they don't care much about how we are taking this. So you decide whether you should keep on going with this guy, or if each of you should look for someone who is decent and can also make the sparks fly. Only you can decide. If you guys are "settling" (for second best), than shake hand and say no harm no foul and move on.

Answer 6

hi, you have every right to make a big deal of it.
youve been together for 6 years and outta no where he confesses he doesn't love you as much? YES it IS a big deal!!!
talk to him, and ask him why his feelings have started to go away...it might be a temporary thing, he might have someone else in mind, might be tired of the relationship..you will never know till you ask
and tell him you are glad that he told you, that you respect his honesty and this way you can both move on with or without each other

Answer 7

Oh you poor thing, that is a terrible thing to say. And I cant believe that he didnt think you would make a big deal about it. Maybe he is just meaning that your relationship has lost its spark. Like maybe, instead of staying at home on a weekend, you could suggest that you go out like yo did before your relationship entered the "comfort zone". Or just, dont let the spark die- its ok to be comfortable around each other, but not to the point that you NEVER go out, or get dressed up for each other, ect.

So just talk to him about it... Maybe tell him that you have thought about it, and that you think that you need to work it out. And do more things together like you used to.

Answer 8

Relationships change and move alot, if he said he has lost some interest it doesn't mean its all over.

Think or ask him why, he has lost interest... Maybe you are stuck in a routine that has become boring, maybe you don't get time to see each other as much, etc.

Change things up.. do something different. Take him away for a surprise weekend, do something silly.. Have fun and relax, its time to make him remember why he fell for you in the first place.

Answer 9

I'm very surprised he would come up with I don't love you as much this past year compared to before. Especially because you have been together for so long.
Sadly, this might be a sign of him having second thoughts on your relationship. What are your goals in life? Are they very much different to what he wants in life? Have you both taken seperate paths to what you want to strive for in life? and Have the things you have in common, changed? In my opinion you should consider these questions and there answers. Maybe you both are growing apart, or maybe he's growing apart from you.
Love (in my opinion) doesn't/shouldn't have a measurement. So him claiming he doesn't love you as much as he once did is very weird and is a sign of him putting thought into your relationship with one another and your relationship in the future.
He shouldn't regret being honest with you, especially if your concerned about your relationship!!
He should be able to discuss why he feels this way etc. to you. It could save you problems down the road between eachother. It could save your relationship. Some guys tend to hide there feelings and avoid talking about them. I would say pry it out of him but then he will remind himself not to be bruatly honest with you again, which wouldn't be good. If he doesn't want to talk about it I'm not sure what to tell you but to try to convince him he needs to talk to you before you assume something that isn't true.
Good luck girl!

Answer 10

You really should make this a BIG deal because when he said that he doesn't love you as much as before ,he had a reason to say it,he could be interested in someone else or he does not think you are sexy as he used to think.Talk to him about it and try to find out the real reason for him saying that.

Answer 11

leave the guy......especially if its been 6 years. He wouldn't have even told you that if he truly loves you as much as you deserve. Are you wanting a commitment with this guy? Cause if so it seems that he certainly DOESN"T want one. And if you don't want a long-term relationship then give him up and find someone who will like you more than he does. Besides 6 years is plenty of time to decide how you truly feel about someone.