I'm a female and I'm 21 already, but so far I haven't found a lover yet. Any tips on where I could go to find a special somebody? Don't tell me to go look on a dating site or anything please. I don't believe in online dating. Thanks.
2007-04-30 16:19:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no steadfast answer to your question - but don't get cynical as they do exist (I didn't meet my kindred spirit until I was 41 - we have been married for over a year now ...)
Unfortunately most women have to go through many r-souls before the right soul comes along. Keep your eyes, your heart and your mind open - remember not all great guys look like George Clooney! Good Luck ...
Oh and by the way I met my soulmate online so don't completely discount the effectiveness of that particular avenue...
2007-04-30 16:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters, dont think the first guy you meet is going to be your soul mate, you have to sort through alot of bad ones usually to find a guy! they say 1 out of 12 guys you meet you will really click with. Online dating isnt so bad either, depends on how far away they are, because there is no point really talking to them if neither is willing to move for the other if you fall in love. Be option to all options, maybe start going out a bit more, join the gym (theres always cute ones there!)
2007-04-30 16:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lilo
You are only 21. Life is just begining for you. I know its not easy to not have someone in your life. I've been there time and again. Girlfriend after girlfriend. So you just read that and you must be thinking "ok so what are you saying? What do I do?"
You focus on your life and establishing yourself in life. Keep yourself open to possibilities but don't just put yourself out on the market. You can't go looking for that someone special because you will never find one. Why? Because special someone's find you!!! Do you know what a soulmate is? Soulmates are when the souls recognize each other. A soulmate completes you in heart, mind, body, and soul. A soulmate satisfies you emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.
I know this may not have been the answer you are looking for but trust me you can't rush this. Its much much sweeter if you let it happen when its meant to happen!!! Set your life stones in place first, build your foundation!!!
2007-04-30 16:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Duaernil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cultivate your interest. If something jazzes you, go and do that thing, promote it, teach it, whatever. It will put you in touch with others who share those interests, and he may be lurking there.
Also, hang with your friends and their other circles of friends. Your friends may know or meet that someone special, but if you aren't around at the time, you might miss that opportunity.
In short, get out and about and you'll have a better shot at meeting him.
Although, you just never know, you might meet him in a completely unexpected way. I met my husband at my parents house, of all places. He was hired to help my dad bring in wood for the winter, and then to help with ongoing renovations. He was a lovely guy, but it still took us a year of being friends before we both saw the obvious. It's 22 years now and we still hold hands and wave goodbye from the windows like a couple of love struck idiots :D
Good luck and just keep your eyes and mind WIDE open, you never know who Mr.Right might be.
2007-04-30 16:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would join a club or an organization that you are interested in. You'll meet a lot of new people and will have more social opportunities. Plus, the people you meet will already have at least one interest in common. Everytime I've taken a class or joined a club, dating possibilities really took off. 21 is still young, so don't fret, you'll meet plenty of people along the way. good luck.
2007-04-30 16:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by babalu2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more luck than anything... just being in the right place at the right time. If you have a job that involves social interaction with customers...or go to college - those are opportunities to meet someone. But, just like you, I'm still searching for my soul mate as well.
2007-04-30 16:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by jh361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and your prince charming will come right along. Being patient is a very important key in finding the ultimate soulmate. Do not try to do or be anything you are not. Be a leader because guys like leaders and not followers.
2007-04-30 16:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just decide to be happy where you are, be happy with your life, and he will come to you. This happened to me. I was looking and decided to ask this question...the answer found me...Now I am happier than I have ever been. The answer was in an old chinese proverb that a Brave man told to me...
"Love finds love, love gets love if both fail, love creates love."
Just be patient, he will find you!
Never limit yourself to the belief that he could not be on any medium...I never thought...but you never know!
2007-04-30 16:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soulmate.com, Craigslist
2007-04-30 16:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know. America is one of the least happy countries, psychologists believe it's because of too high expectations. Just find someone you like and enjoy.
2007-04-30 16:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋