When grandma passes away, who gets her stuff (my stuff)?

Question

My grandmother does not have a will and never made one out because she raised me as her own daughter and it was understood that I would inherit her furniture and heirlooms (We live in an apartment, so there's not very much, only a nice bedroom set and dining room.) I am 20 years old and have taken care of her the last several years without any support from my almost non-existent mother. Recently my grandmother has developed symptoms of Alzheimer's. I do not know how much time she has before she has no mind of her own. My mother has just expressed interest in my grandmother's belongs, things my grandmother has already given to me (like paintings) that just happen to still be in her apartment because I live with her.

If my grandmother dies, or has to go into a nursing home, is there any law that can stop my mother from just coming in and taking all the furniture (like I said, there's not that much, and it's of sentimental value, not neccesarily financial) , paintings, and even my personal family photos and heirlooms that my grandmother gave me as a child?

It's not that I'm being selfish by not offering to give my mother anything. It's just that there isn't much here to give. It's all stuff that I'm going to need for my apartment. Plus, I don't see why my mother should be entitled to anything, as she doesn't even speak to my grandmother, and has NEVER helped me care for her, even though her medical needs demand much of my time and energy. Heck, my mother didn't even raise me. So, if anyone has any advice, please share it with me. I wouldn't put it pass my mom to take me to court just for meaness, but I'm willing to give it my all to fight her on this one.

Answer 1

Go to Staples or Office Depot or similar store. They should have forms for just about any legal issue you might need. They'll have one to make out a will. Talk to your grandmother and ask her to decide what she wants you to have. As you're going through things fill in the forms with the items your grandmother wants to leave to you. Once you have a list complete, have your grandmother sign the form. It sounds like at this time she is still lucid enough to make some decisions.

There will be instructions with the forms to tell you how to make it legally binding. If not, call your local court clerk who can guide you on proper procedures. It may only need to be notarized. Do this now before your grandmother's condition progresses.

Once that's done, try to talk to your mother to find out her reasons for not wanting to be involved in her mother's life, or for that matter in yours. There may be issues there that you don't know about. You're judging your mother on surface things that you see but do you know the real story behind her apparent animosity toward her mother? Have you discussed with her your animosity toward her? I suggest this so you can start to forgive your mother. You want to forgive her so you can move forward with your life and not be stuck in forever resenting her. This will help ensure that your future life with your kids will be more harmonious.

Answer 2

you can still get her a will, be her power of attorney, i'd also advise you talk to a lawyer about these things to because in some families things can get ugly, family members that were never around and didnt help to take care all of the sudden want ppls stuff, i know first hand. i know that since she doesnt have a will that specifies who gets what all of her stuff goes to the state and they divide it up amount family, starting with her oldest child and then the next oldest and goes on down to the grandchildren. so talk to a lawyer about specifics because her stuff will go to anyone that is the oldest or closest of kin in your family. soo sorry for your troubles

Answer 3

This is all your stuff. if you lived with her and she gave smoe of it to you it is yours. sorry but your mom is a *

Answer 4

get her a will or the state gets it