I have tried everything I know to show her I will stand beside her regardless of what she faces, but can't get her to open up to me. I am certainly not inexperienced - and know everyhting takes time, but I know I could and would be able to help her more if I could get her to communciate with me. I dearly love her and want to help her any way I can.
2007-04-30 15:32:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a serious Q..but to answer it takes me to ask some Q's...how long has this relationship been? Was she in a relationship with someone who treated her bad? Are you being alittle pushy?
Or is she wanting to suffer in silence..if so she may not want to open up to you..she may need someone else to open up to.
You use the word trust but trust takes time..it must be earned..that is why I am asking how long has this been a relationship?? If not long you need to be patient.
And believe it or not but we cannot always help..but we can always listen..but only if the person wants to communicate..the most important part of a relationship is honest communication...and trust...without either..a relationship will not grow..it will die like a plant starving for water.
Ciao
2007-04-30 19:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by bodacious baby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her, never push her into anything (like trying to get information from her) or she will never trust you. I am a girl who takes a long time to trust because I was abused in my last relationship. You just need to be patient, respect her feelings and her boundaries and listen to her when she talks. Show a genuine concern in how her day was and ask her when you see her how her day was. Listen to what she says, we know when you're not listening. If she tells you she had a bad day, give her feedback and try to make her feel better about her bad day. Helping her with small things will build a healthy strong trust. She's lucky to have met you. Good luck :)
2007-04-30 22:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by lucky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmm...do you often date women like this? she may NEVER completely trust you, depending on what has happened in her past AND her ability to cope with it...she is in control of this relationship, and you will always be trying and trying and getting nowhere...I don't want to seem mean and I hope I'm not using offensive words... but, something to think about, especially when you say it is a LOVING relationship...on who's part?
2007-04-30 22:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she needs therapy then. Refusing to trust someone isn't a healthy way of behaving.
2007-04-30 22:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Richard great question..all is I can say.. listen to Chola..I trust her..and she trusts me!
2007-05-01 06:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by HarveyB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋