I work in a supermarket with a lot of teenage guys, who act rude and indifferent towards me. I try to get along with everyone, but sometimes they can get downright arrogant.
How should I respond?
2007-04-30 15:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by Road Trip 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
"With an attitude like that, you don't have to worry about getting old like me." I worked as a manager in grocery (nights no less, 2nd job)...it makes some think, some chuckle,,,and some go hide the sharp objects in the store...Alda
2007-04-30 15:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's nice that you try to get along with everyone, but adolescence is a very narcissistic time in life. No matter what you say, especially if you're trying to teach them some profound moral lesson, it's not gonna work. Be friendly but ignore them and let them see you being secure and friendly and not the least bit bothered by their arrogance. However, if they are hurting someones feelings, stand up for the person! Give them a lesson in how a real man should act, maybe they don't see it at home! Good luck, it's hard I'm sure!
2007-04-30 15:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by cjm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Slap their parents.
Seriously, try to explain to them that their attitude is not appropriate in a work environment and if it continues they will have to find another place to work. I have worked in a lot of supermarkets, most when I was a teenager. I was easily promoted and given raises, where most of the kids I worked with hated their jobs. Attitude has a lot to do with life, and someone needs to teach them respect. I'm sorry the job has fallen upon you. But on the bright side, if they don't shape up, you gave them their warning and soon they will be someone else's issue if you follow up.
2007-04-30 15:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Karin 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i'm fifteen, and via the way I talk and my evaluations on issues, human beings often think of i'm way older, and fairly mature for my age. yet... i'm no longer. Lmao. I do strip teases interior the laundromat window with my acquaintances, in finished view of a hectic highway. i'm nonetheless VERY fifteen.
2016-10-14 05:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best if you just ignore them and chalk up their arrogance as immaturity. Continue to be pleasant and getting along with everyon while doing your job. Go home and be grateful that they are not your children living in your home when you get home from work.
2007-04-30 17:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by chansenfam@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that all depends on your role at work. if you are a manager then you need to take them aside, individually, and speak to them about their disrespectful attitude towards you. if you are in the same role as them you need to earn their respect. show them that you can do your job as well as, or better, than they can. don't try too hard to be their friend, just use your maturity to handle the situation. good luck
2007-05-01 08:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by sue brew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having worked at a "pizza chain" for nearly 12 years, I've experienced my share of jerks to work with.
The best thing to do is to calmly tell them to stop their behavior... "I don't appreciate your behavior towards me, and I'm telling you to please leave me alone." That way, they have been told in no uncertain terms that their behavior is UNWELCOME (key word here!) and to stop it.
If they continue to behave in the rude manner, repeat your request, and add: "and if you continue to behave this way, you leave me NO CHOICE but to report you for harassment." (Again, KEY words: YOU leave me no choice!)
IF, after that, they continue to behave rudely, then ... IN WRITING... write a letter of complaint to the supervisor. Explain WHO is the "violator," and EXACTLY what the behavior you find UNWELCOME to be. Then explain that you told them that their behavior was unwelcome and to please stop it, and repeated this request, and they refused to comply. Then conclude that you have been left with "NO CHOICE" but to report this harassing behavior because these people (this person) does not respect your request... .AND... that you HOPE that the supervisor can resolve the situation so that you will not have to "take further action" for the harassment to end.
Kinda sounds nasty and wordy, but trust me, it works. I've had to report people for harassing me, and they were spoken to sternly and the harassment ended. Harassment is ILLEGAL in the workplace. It does NOT have to be "sexual" harassment, but simply "UNWELCOME" behavior that is interfering with your work and/or making your place of work an unhappy place to be. If the supervisor cannot stop it, the go up the chain of "complaints" for your company until you get results.
These kids often don't "realize" their behavior is considered harassment, and is ILLEGAL, and the can be FIRED because of it. AND, if the company/supervisor does NOT take your complaint SERIOUSLY... you can SUE them for not protecting you... and BOY-howdy, they don't want to be SUED!
2007-04-30 20:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By taking the high road, lead by example and don't get drawn into their immaturity. Who cares what the punks think anyway?
2007-04-30 15:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by ACTS 4:12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule one. Never return evil for evil. They will learn by example. Take the high road, always.
P.S. *laughing* I didn't read what gn had said before I posted this, either!!
2007-04-30 16:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask them out for a drink or your house for a meal. I find that being nice to those sorts is really beneficial. They may start being nice to you for a change. Failing that, just plod along and do your job with your head held high.
2007-04-30 15:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by Jambo 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋