My neighbour came to me crying, again. Her 17 year old daughter launched the remote at her, leaving a nice bruise on her shoulder- almost as big as an orange. This is not the first time this has happened and her behaviour has gotten worse, if anything. For once I am clueless, short of telling her to get a switch from the tree, so I am asking you all. How much damage does this young one have to do before someone will step in and stop her and give her some help? Thankfully she is 17 and still a minor, so that helps. I just do not know what to do to help her. I thank you all in advance for any sort of advice.
2007-04-30 15:15:09 · 21 answers · asked by yankee_cotton 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Two words. BOOT CAMP.
Honestly, I can't imagine being in that position. She's at an age where she could run away or shack up with a boyfriend or whatever, so mom's probably afraid of driving her away. At the same time, if the girl feels like she's holding the reigns...
I'd love to see them get a sitting with Dr. Phil. But short of that, if the girl is getting physically violent, I know it's a crazy big step and probably a last resort only, but the mom might consider calling the police. It's basically a domestic violence situation. Maybe a little stint in Juvie will chill this kid out.
2007-04-30 15:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by hoff_mom 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok, First off, you're not worthless and if anyone told you so, they obviously are worthless. Your 15 years old, that's a young age, its an amazing age. You can practically do anything if you put your mind to it. lets break this down. 1.) Ask yourself why you think you're worthless? 2.) What led you do think that? 3.) Then think about how stupid those reasons are. You pretty much already did all of these except you didnt realize that life is actually worth living. I believe everyone has a purpose and at 15 you really dont know what that is yet. I think you need to find a hobby, or join a group. Perhaps a church group. if you come to them they will help you and make you feel like someone loves you. Jesus does and i think you need to find some sort of savior for this. dont kill yourself over small stuff. and about your parents, theres no greater revenge than growing up to be better than them. btw if your grades are good then you have a lot of potential. Find your mental escape, read a book, lose yourself to a great story and dont worry too much about the now. It happens **** happens just get over it and do things for yourself, you are your greatest asset. Dont give up and keep moving.
2016-05-17 21:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by erlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, her mom needs to stop taking this. It could escalate and not just be towards her mom in the near future. I would say calling the police atleast once should jolt her daughter back into reality and let her know that she will not continue to get away with this. Another common recommendation would be counseling. But in all reality her mom just needs to take the upper hand in this situation. I am not saying beat her or anything, but not show the daughter that she is in control in any way. It would be alot easier if this had been taken care of at a younger age as well. I am sorry to say that.
2007-04-30 15:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In alot of places they have programs where the parent can call a crisis responder if the teen becomes violent. This program will help to educate the mother about what she can do to protect herself, and in quite a few cases will even send police or other responders to the home to deal with the child. Sometimes they will even take the child to overnight bunking in a place similar to a jail to scare them a bit. Your local police department would have more information on this. They will also know agencies that can help with other issues such as mental health, family crisis, etc.
2007-04-30 15:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when a child has been spanked early in childhood. This child is also more than likely spoiled. Probably had a television in her room since early childhood. Has a computer in her room, an iPod, cellphone and mommy and daddy pay the bills for it all, rather than making her ever EARN any of it as priveliges rather than rights. Now that she is 17 mommy wants to "discipline"...It's not going to work. It's too late. If it were my child she would abuse me ONCE...then I'd tell her that the next time I'd be calling the police and putting her butt into jail. YES they do put 17 year olds in jail for assault. And that is just what this spoiled 17 year old is doing.
2007-04-30 15:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
while her mother puts up with it she will continue. As hard as it is she should call the police on her for abuse. This is what it is called. It may be enough to scare her straight but at 17 she would probably be self centred. It may be she needs to move out. This is what happens when you let kids hit you and disrespect you when they are young. They grow up doing the same but with more strength. She made her bed and now she has to lie in it. Maybe get the girls father involved.
2007-04-30 20:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, the mom and her daughter need to get counseling together. What was the daughter trying to say before she lost it and got violent? That's what needs to be dealt with most importantly. 17 yr old needs to learn how to communicate effectively without abuse. BUT when she does get abusive, she needs some tuff love. Take away everything that links her to her social circle and take away everything that is enjoyable and taken for granted by her. Make her get a job if she doesn't already have one, then make her start paying rent. Dont give her anything. If she wants it, she has to get it herself... after she buys her own food and toiletries.
2007-04-30 15:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Just Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is only 2. But I can tell you what I would do in that situation. First, I would try to get her in church, which would be best. If that didint work, I would send her to boot camp. They aren't mean to them, they just show them how to respect people. and they discipline them at the same time. I have seen this on the Maury show time and again. Sometimes it helps. If that dont work, I would tell your neighbor to make her daughter leave, and show her some "tough love".
2007-04-30 15:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom and I would never stand for my daughter disrespecting me in that way. Your neighbour needs to either assert herself without beating her daughter. Take that girl downtown to where there are some homeless girls and hookers so she can see where she would be if it wasn't for her mom. Or call the police. Her daughter needs to be taught a big lesson or she's going to get into some major trouble later on.
2007-04-30 15:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tina D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police....asap. If you dont and just stand around and let this happen, honestly you're no better. Help your neighbor before it gets worse.....much worse. The child obviously needs counseling and maybe a good run-in with the cops would scare enough....Either way, please help your neighbor by doing the right thing...contacting the authorities. Good luck
2007-04-30 15:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋