When i find a guy that seems like he has his head on straight. It turns out...how can i say this? Crazy!! I love taking care of a man that i love. Making sure he has a smile on his face n when he says there something he wants i always go out of my way 2 make sure he has it. But when i'm having a hard time he know where around. I just dont kno what 2 do anymore. I dont want 2 turn into a ***** n be cold........any advise??
2007-04-30 14:30:25 · 9 answers · asked by S.L.A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem is that you convienve these guys that they deserve your treatment, and they don't until they do something for you.
From now on, make sure you get something back when you do something. It need not be equal value, but it must me something that takes some thought on his part.
Take care of YOU first:)
Good luck
2007-04-30 14:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup the problem is you are SMOTHERING these men. Its nice and all good that you want to care of them and go out of your way, but thats too much too soon. When you find a man and you two are in love and committed then its okay to do all of that stuff. You have to make the man chase you you dont give your all so soon in the relationship you have to leave him wanting more and more. They figure since you do so much for them that they might as well take adavantage of it since you dont mind.
2007-04-30 14:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that I can help in this matter I am a married man..LOL..
Take men as they come, there is plenty of them out there, trust me.. There is a fine line between doing to much and smothering the guy and not doing enough.. TRY THIS.. When you meet a guy don't be too quick to show them who you really are, and don't be too quick to do the horizontal mambo,play them out a bit see what there really up to... believe it or not allot of guys just want to get in your pants and be done with you.. now if things seem to be going all right for awhile then let yourself come out little buy little it will change things up abit and make the relationship interesting.. once you see that he will go out of his way for you with no sex involved then you know what he really wants........YOU!!!
You as a person not an object that spreads it's legs!!!
Well I really hope this helps!!
2007-04-30 14:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by James S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't beat yourself up for being nice. But you should do things for the one you love, but at the same time you need to show them that you can't and won't do everything for them. That's when they start depending on you for everything. This kinda makes you look like their mom. Every person needs to grow up and if your still treating them like their mom would thy never will. Just don't go out of your way, if maybe he asks you to pick something up on your way home from work and it's on the way that's fine to pick it up but if you have to go out of your way just decline and say that it's just not something you can do right at this time. Good Luck
2007-04-30 14:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Koolaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be quite as motherly nice. Don't be quite as sisterly nice. Keep the positive attributes but keep your appearance drop dead gorgeous, and let your eyes stray just for a second or two, past a handsome man, long enough to get the beginning of a smile...............Don't be somebody he can be as sure of as he can be of his dog.
2007-04-30 14:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by kasandra k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its good in a relationship to support each other, if he takes advantage just keep looking for that special someone, im sure you'll find true love someday but you need to learn that if he takes advantage its not a good thing to still be in that relationship
2007-04-30 14:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by bluemercenarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime you can't give a man everything,
you feed him one day and you starve him the next,
than he will understand how much he need you and can't live without you, when you're not around, the house is in chaos
learn this trick which work on every man, trust me
2007-04-30 14:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by transformer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not doing anything wrong.you just havent found the right guy who deserves a good woman like you .they are out there dont give up
2007-04-30 14:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by pattialfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it much. He should be doing the same to you. It's not always about him.
2007-04-30 14:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Buddy Hodor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋