i wrote to you guys yesterday about my mum telling me , that my boyfriend was cheating on me.I also found out yesterday that im 5 weeks pregnant.Im so confused, do i tell him or not.He says he needs time from the relationship, i just dont know whether telling him will help.I dont want him to be there for me because of the baby alone , i want him to be there because he genuinly loves both of us...its doing my head in, any advice wouldnt go astray..thanks guys
2007-04-30 14:19:03 · 15 answers · asked by scarlettstar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him. i don't think that it is going to change his cheating ways. and i would rather raise my child alone with dignity than to succumb to a life of unhappiness and distrust. there is wonderful wholesome men out there. don't be desperate. just be honest. of course you can stay mutual and have a good adult relationship with this guy for the sake of your baby. but, other than that....if a huge change isn't made on his part (and i doubt it), then you know some other man will gladly take his place and love your child as his own. I'm so sorry to hear your dilemma. same thing happened to me. i married him and he never changed his cheating ways (we divorced a year and a half later... be careful and don't waste your time if you do not see genuine feelings.
2007-04-30 16:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is pretty serious you need to tell him that you are pregnant then you need to have a long talk with him about what your options are.. .Like whether or not you are goin to keep the baby.. get married... beak up ... or stay together... And you need to do this as soon as possible.. since he is going to be a dad he needs to know
2007-04-30 14:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by *~*Volleyball player*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, You should tell him. You did not get pregnant by yourself. Even if he does not want a relationship, he still needs to be a father. If he chooses to walk out on his own child you know he is a looser. Tell him.
2007-04-30 14:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should tell him. Atleast give him a chance to be a father figure. If hes not then don't worry about it. Congrats on the baby!!
2007-04-30 14:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetninnocent86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to hold it back. He's going to have to find out sooner or later. You should plan to tell him real soon, just make sure the moment is right.
2007-04-30 14:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Manillo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is what it is now. It is not a question of should you, you two have created a new life and he has the right to know. You have to. I hope that it works out for you.
2007-04-30 14:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by hollygirl732001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he can have ALL the time he wants.Just make sure those child support checks come on time.The dont repeat the mistake again and LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER!
2007-04-30 14:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's cheating on you, then you should just find another guy, you shouldn't tell him, because if he is that way, he doesn't deserve a family.. sorry Hun, had to be said.. it is really bad but really true!!!!
oh congrats on the baby!!!
2007-04-30 14:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by ilovesomeone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be honest with him and tell him. He deserves to know that he will be a father soon. You don't have to ask him to stay with you though. That's his decision. It would be best if he does.
2007-04-30 14:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes cheating on u then he is not going to genuenly love the 2 of u....i would first tell ur mom...c wat she says. if ur bf ever tries to get back with u let him kno....but if he isnt guna love u 2 genuenly then dosent deserv to even kno there r 2 of u in there...good luck!
2007-04-30 14:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by hana chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋