How do i make myself happy?

Question

My life is a mess! I am only 11 and don't say i am over reacting. I really hate my life. I am so happy at school. People are so jealous. But the minute i get home everything changes. I don't get along with my mom. I hate a so called best friend who is always playing with this other braty girl i walk home with. She just got all these cool stuff a ds a ps2. It is not fair. I am the oldest girl of the little kids be years. But they get cell phones and ipods and stuff. My mom says no cuz she hates me and my dad says no uz my mom says no. It isn't fair. The only good thing about my life is school. Everything els is bad. People say you have as many good things as bad this but i don't My dad just left for a trip for a month. My mom is being a butt. I am not the prettyest girl eather. I am the only afercan-amercan in my class. When people start talking about it i get so embarresed. I alsways look the same everyday cuz i am scared to change. I want to be happy but something alway pulls me down

I want to be pretty, smart, and have a happy life. Is that to much to ask for? I look at other people to look what is wrong with ther life but there is nothing!

Answer 1

Sweetheart, you're only 11. Lighten up! You've got a long way to go to really know what stress feels like!! Don't be so hard on your mom, try to start a relationship with her. Sit her down and express yourself to her like you're expressing yourself here on yahoo answers. Have a heart to heart with her, I'm sure she'll love to sit down and talk with her daughter. Tell her how you feel so different in your school setting, because of your race as well as because you don't have all the things that the other girls do. And this makes you feel like you almost don't belong. (But hey, you don't need all these technologies and all this brand named stuff, be happy with what you have! They're expensive anyways)
Don't look down upon yourself. Hold your head up high and gain a little bit more confidence and self-esteem. If you don't like what you are now, maybe it's time for a change. Do a little make over. Experiment with new hair styles and makeup or something. Be happy! Cheer up! :-)
Hope this helped.

Answer 2

Hey girl! Alright so this is what i do....show how cofident you are!!!! Dont get embarassed about being african-american...i am to and let me tell you....BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! You say your the only african-american in your class...good, that sets you apart from the others!!! Keep up with your school work and that will make you alot smarter!!! Beauty comes form the inside so show your mature and be nice!!!! Who cares if the others have cell phones and ipods.....in time those things will break..haha!!!!! You are perfect the way you are and that should make you happy!!!!! And with the mom thing...well just let her be...try not to ask for things alot just when needed...always remind her how much you love her and not hate her because you never know what rewards you might get!!!!!!♥


As for the heart thing...you hold down ALT(the one to the left of the space bar) and then the 3 on the right side of your keyboard!!!!♥

Good luck with everything!!!♥

Answer 3

First of all, don't pay attention to the nasty responses you received!!!! Growing up can definitely be difficult. We all have to go through with it. I am an adult now BUT I do remember how life could seem so unfair. I went through many phases feeling like I hated my life too. It get's better sweetie!!! Hang in there... TRUST ME!! Don't give up. Study hard, be a good girl, gain some self confidence. Keep your chin up. I know.. easier said than done but trust me... it will get better. I am so sorry that you feel that your mother hates you. I know that must hurt. Try and have a heart to heart with her. If that doesn't work than keep in mind that the Lord loves you and you are beautiful to Him. That is where I found my true happiness and faith. Some people will not agree BUT I am a true testimony. I have hit rock bottom several times and finally realized that I am worth it. I believe in Jesus Christ and through Him ALL things are possible. You're young sweetheart and life may seem like it's impossible at times. Don't give up!!!!

Answer 4

When you stop feeling sorry for yourself take a look around. There are lots of people around who have nothing...no cell phones, no game systems, and sometimes no houses. Maybe you should ask your mom to take you to a homeless shelter so you can get an idea of people who have nothing, so you will be a little more appreciative of what you do have. Maybe your mom and dad are saying no for a reason. You should ask them, without sounding all bratty, and LISTEN to their response. Maybe some things could be worked out that way.

Answer 5

Listen you sound spoiled yourself. I never got a cell phone till 16 when I actually needed one. Your life is fine treat your parents with respect, and learn to not be so jealous. Just be thankful for what you got. Plus your 11 thats what 5th grade or 6th grade you got lots of growing up to do before you can take bigger responsibilites. Change is good by the way.

Answer 6

First of all your mother doesn't hate you! I think if you went to her and asked if you could have some time with her in private and talked calmly about your feelings you would see that she wants to help. Please dont call her a butt. You dont know how hard it is to be a mom.
Next, you think others dont have problems but they do. No one has NO problems. It is hard to be the oldest but you are a role model. You need to be a good example and it looks like you are afraid to be exceptional as you are. Try to act in a more responsible and older way with your mother and also when your father returns ask for a meeting with him too. You are entering difficult years but with communication with your parents they can be easier. For example, just really nicely say to your mother that you wish you could understand the reasons for things, and then you will be better. See what she says, ok? You will grow up to be a very special independent person , I just know it. Please dont think I dont know the pain you have, I am just trying to help you.

Answer 7

hi hon...

i'm sorry you feel your mother hates you. i'm sure she doesn't... perhaps she's going through some problems of her own right now, and she's just not being very nice through it all?

maybe tell her how you feel. "i feel like you hate me"....

meanwhile, sometimes parents just can't give everything they would like to give to their kids -- like the cell phone and PS2. there are other things to consider, and parents don't have an endless amount of money in their wallets... there has to be a limit to everything.

i know you're not a teenager yet but you are very close at 11 --i did find some websites that might help you with your self-esteem problems. if you'd like to take a look they are listed below.

you can find more by doing a web search on TEEN SELF ESTEEM.

sending hugs.. i hope youre feeling better soonEST.

Answer 8

That's what everybody wants, hon.


:| I just turned 14. High school changed my life. It changed me.

Some changes weren't good, at all.
But atleast I found myself.
I found the real me.
I found my potential.
I don't care what people think at most...I just want people to respect me, and to get to know me before they say anything.


It gets better.
I'm so sorry.
I was a spoiled idiot....
I had an mp3 player and a cellphone when I turned 11.
I could've gone without. I probably would have had a healthier lifestyle without them. Hahahaha. That's for sure.

Answer 9

honey there is nothing wrong with you. you are just at the stage in life that we all go through.

*but the stuff about your mum, is a bit tough. you need to have a sit down with your parents with your dad gets back from his trip...you need to be really serious and let them know how your mum is treating you and how upset it is making you.

**why don't you take up a sport to find more friends...and it will also build your confidence up...
there is nothing wrong with you at all, so don't even think that. who cares if you are the only african-american in your class...that just makes you even more unique. stop putting so much stress upon yourself...and learn to relax. everything will work out fine..

good luck honey.

***just remember to have that big serious chat with your mum and dad...just your mum and dad so they will take it all in.

Answer 10

Forgive and ignore, be your self, face your analyze the significant reason you're interior the school. Pray and sing some well known songs, study your Bible too. you'll journey the affection of God flowing on your heart.