What do you think about spanking children?

Answer 1

Spanking has a use.
There a story about William the Conquerors father, Robert who was leaving to go off to the Crusades. William was 8 and his father knew his son was young and might forget him if anything happened to him. So he beat him. Yes it was cruel for our time but William didnt forget his father and that was the last time he ever saw him.

My point is sometimes spankings are necessary when a child needs to really remember something. like how dangerous their behaviour is. If you spank all the time it doesnt do much good. But if you found your 3 year old standing over the bassinet of your newborn with a club ready to beat the baby a good spanking would get his attention. Or if your young child runs off in a parking lot, a dangerous situation, a spanking is called for. Sometimes they need something serious so they understand how bad something is. Spankings arent as bad as a kid crushed underneath a car.

Answer 2

so "politically incorrect" that many places it is not wise to do it. And for many teens who think "grounding" is worse than being spanked, and so accept it ... we may be the last spanked generation.

I mean, a spanking can sure hurt the backside, but it doesn't harm nor injure it. A serious "spanking" means the butt is going to sting or smart a whole lot at the time and for a little while after the whacking stops. It sure ain't fun! But really it is "no big deal" either. The spanking itself likely lasts only 2 or 3 minutes (max) [though it feels like 20 or 30 minutes, at the time]. But the sting soon eases though the memory remains.

So, yeah, I guess it is okay to spank children and even us teens. But if the teen is so opposed to being "spanked" then use some other form of punishment.

I guess parents need to consider the options available to them (example: is it legal to spank their children/teens and if not then will they get "reported"). Of the options available, which would be the most "effective" short and long-term? (For some teens, being "spanked" would 'provoke them to wrath'; others, we would "learn" from the spanking and stay "in line", at least for a while ... but if we were grounded for a week or two we'd be builidng up a lot of resentment during that whole time. Yeah, sure, likely we'd resent the spanking too ... but we'd only be building up resentment for a few minutes rather than a week or two or longer!

Answer 3

I don't think "spanking" is a bad thing. My brothers and I got spanked, got the belt sometimes, not very often. But if I had kids I'd spank them. But you have to keep a check on YOUR anger when you do spank. Example, I was friends with this girl growing up and her father would use his belt on her legs and the next day you could see the belt stap welts still on her legs. That's abuse no matter when it was done, then or now. That was wrong. Alot of people disagree about spanking but I'll tell you for those parents that raised kids before spanking was a problem ask those parents now what they think of the kids that are growing up now that aren't being spanked. They'll tell you many of them are terrible acting children, and the parents don't know how to correct the bad behavior. Just something to think about. MLJ

Answer 4

I think that spanking is an acceptable form of discipline, but not when it's done in anger, and you shouldn't spank your child for every little thing. When I was growing up, I got spanked sometimes, but then there were times when my mom would just talk to me. She knew when I needed a spanking and when I needed a good talking to. In other words, the punishment fit the crime. She didn't spank me for little stuff.

Answer 5

I have a three year old and up until this point I have not spanked her at all. There were times when I would pop her little hand or grab her to get her attention but never once did I get a belt or use my hand to spank her bottom. All the while my mother would tell me to spank her when she did things and I could never bring myself to do it. Now, she is mouthy, and disobedient, and she fights me. People say that spanking a child makes them this way, but she has never had a spanking. Now that I am trying to incorporate spankings she is fighting me even more, kicking, biting, hitting, you name it. I think my mother was right if I was spanking her all along then she would not have turned out to be such the three year old monster that she is.
I think that if a child is old enough to understand what they did then they are old enough to suffer the consequences be it time out, spanking, or being sent to bed.

Answer 6

I am totally against spanking children. I think when you spank a child it only teaches them to hit other people.

Think about how you would feel when/if someone hit you. You feel bad about yourself, and blame yourself for something you might not have done or had control over.

I think timeout is a good solution for discipline. It lets the child know they did something wrong by taking away a few minutes of their time instead of leaving them with bruises or emotionally hurt. Some people go to far with spanking and then it turns into abuse. If a DSS worker saw you smack a child on it's hand they would report you. It' s their job to do so.

Answer 7

When I was growing up my parents spanked us, and when I say that, I mean a real spanking. Something that would stop you sitting comfortably for a week if we did something serious. Yet I never felt my parents did anything wrong, and I will always love them for everything they did for me, including an occasional spanking.
I turned out fine, so why won't it work on this generation?

Answer 8

I think that the decisions should be based on a variety of questions - There age, the reasons for feeling you should discipline them that way, and the way you spank them.
I definitely do not believe in abuse, but you are the parent. If you feel like a smack on the tushie or hand once in a while will help them understand better and will make them choose the right decisions in the future, then so be it!!! Heck I turned out fine :)

Answer 9

I think it is necessary, but only acceptable if given as a spanking that is done with a level head - not in anger. When ppl are angry & "spank" they are really just hitting.

It's all in what gets accomplished. Is the purpose you are swatting their butt so they will remember the undesired consequence and change their behavior for their own own good? Or is it cuz you are mad?

If you are angry when you do it, it's probably not being done in a just manner.

But people who don't spank at all are just enabling the kid to become whatever they want - and thats usually "monster". :P

Answer 10

For your info, i was smacked when i was 6 or 7 yrs old onwards until 14 yrs old i guess. But that was my generation. Now the teaching and discipline method have thoroughly change whereby genuine love and concern have to be shown to children and most are discipline by reasoning. When they misbehave pull them aside and begin to ask him was that right and try to reason with him but never challenge the kid. Let the kid understood for himself that he is wrong, instead of adult telling them and scolding them. This method is only for 6 yrs and above depending on the intellectual stage.
For 6 and below, strict and direct discipline must be installed so that it is moulded in their mind that doing this and that is wrong. Above 6 is when the mould is completed till then if he never understand that it is wrong, he is likely to percieved that as OK. So strict discipline must be cultivated when young anyway they will not remember u for how bad u are in disciplining them never wacked them at all time. Kids have pride no matter how old or young there are. when the kid grown up. For older kid u have to be their friend and enter into their life, speak their language, eat the same food and watch and have fun along with them.
Well FYI, I am still searching for a life partner, needless to say about kids. The experience is partly learnt from others and partly from my personal years of experience with my sunday school kids.
The diffenence between christian kids and per-christian kids is that pre-christian kids are disciplined, monitored and taught by parent while christian kids are disciplined, monitored, taught and protected by both God and parent 24 hrs round the clock because the angel of God does not rest. That is the main reason why christian kids are easiler to handle.