We have been together for three years and about two years ago he moved. He lives about 45 minutes away now. Almost every single day he "ignores" my calls for at least two hours. He says he will call me back and then when he finally does he says he fell asleep or bla bla bla. If i don't answer the phone then he absolutely flips on me, but he cant understand why i get mad at him. Sometimes he won't talk to me all day and then says i was sleeping, i don't believe him at all and it really pisses me off. Also about a year ago he was sleeping around with this other girl. My car was broke down so he knew i wouldn't be showing up, and while he was doing that he would guess what ignore me. Now i know the obvious thing is to get rid of him cuz he is selfish and disrespectful and a great number of other things but besides that isn't there something i can say to him to help him understand why i find it so irritating and disrespectful fro him to ignore me? Please i know it sounds silly
2007-04-30 11:54:29 · 16 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It bothers you because you sense something wrong because he is being evasive. Why did he move away if he was really interested in being with you? He is probably ignoring you because he "has something better to do" or "someone else to be with". He is probably cheating on you again and know you won't find out because you live do far away. Just ditch him. Or surprise him some time and see what he is really up to.
2007-04-30 12:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so ur boyfriend is now ignoring ur phone calls and he lives like 45min away. what do u think he could possibly be doing? hanging out with some friends, working late. what ever. is he the distant type? has he ever cheated on u? girl i would be looking in on this if i were u. take a trip and surprise him when u know hes off work and and suposed to be at home. but then again u said that u call everyday maybe he needs a break from u calling him everyday.No im not saying break up type of break. hopefully this helps u some what
2007-04-30 19:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Chrisa N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can NOT say anything to make him understand. He has issues. You don't. I have been where you are. I learned finally that he wasn't worth it. I tried to get him to understand that he hurts me when he cheats. I tried to get him to understand that he needed to be honest with me for us to have a relationship. I finally realized that I needed to respect myself. He wasn't going to respect me and act appropriately when I couldn't respect myself and drop his sorry butt. Beware..... when I dropped him, he flipped calling and texting and making promises. I beleived them but found out soon enough that they were lies. I did finally have to get a Protective Order against him because he could not handle the fact that I was trying to move on with my life without him.
2007-04-30 19:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i think:
well first of all why are you still with him if he was sleeping around? your showing him that its okay to do hurtful things to you but that you'll still be there anyway
no one deserves that kind of hurt
you need to show him that doing that was not okay
hes not woth keeping if hes gonna go and do that after 3 years
you really do deserve better than that
2007-04-30 19:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probly pretty young, just move on and a find a guy who won't play games. You deserve better and the sooner you move on the faster you can get over him. Don't waste your time stressing over this dip sh*t.
2007-04-30 19:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cara and Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can' you take a hint. He's done with you. He just doen'st want to hurt your feelings. But really you need to leave him alone. Stop doing all the chasing. Get a life. You need to find someone else.
2007-04-30 18:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by frank_d22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, just move on. He's already cheated, he ignores your calls, he's selfish and disrespectful. It sounds more than silly-- it sounds like you think he's the last loser on earth and you "need" him. Move on move on move on.
2007-04-30 18:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably talking to other girls or he doesnt want to talk..... Have you ever had someone call you that you dont want to talk to?? You tend to not call them back.... or if there is someone that you miss/love/care about, you want to call them, RiGHT?? well if he isnt calling you back, he is probably occupied with lots of stuff, or just doesnt want to talk to U :( if you play hard to get and dont answer when he calls he WILL sound mad, but really he is just wanting you more. :)
dont be soo available, dont give him wat he wants all the time. let him chase.. they love that!
2007-04-30 19:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off Hand, I'd say both of you need to grow up.
Either both of you need to get your act together or find other people to obsess about.
2007-04-30 18:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you might find it irritating because you guys have been together so long and hes so far away i think you should talk to him or break up
2007-04-30 18:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by latosha h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋