how many people would get mad if your mother in law bought your daughter new shoes, and then you found out that she told your daughter that the ones you bought her were dirty and didnt fit right? (child is 7) or would you like it if she constantly was telling you what you were doing wrong with raising your child. how about your mother in law offering to help you buy a house, under these conditions...she will pay what you cannot afford on house for 1 year, but only if her name is on the mortgage and only if its the house she wants you and her son to buy...which just happens to be right next to her sister. and what would you do if you confront your husband about this and he tells you to stop being a b****
2007-04-30 11:30:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wouldnt buy that house. Since your husband wont stick up for you, youll have to do it yourself. I would keep my distance from her and not see her anymore than I have to.
2007-04-30 11:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like the MONSTER INLAW. You have every right to be upset. Your mother-in-law should not be talking this way to your daughter. You need to have a conversation with her.. But when you do.. start it of with a complement. Thank her for helping, then tell her what bothers you. Your husband should support you. OR is he just a mama's boy. You should come first with him and you need to also tell him this in a loving way, not to piss him off.
Don't take not **** woman.. If you buy this home, you need to have rules with your mother-in-law and you need to have that talk with her.. She will get the best of you if you allow her the freedom to control you and your husband.
2007-04-30 18:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rip my hair out and cry until the cows came home. Just kidding -- I would sit down with my husband and mother in law and discuss what bothered me and how we could all reach a compromise. I would ask the mother in law to refrain from making comments about me to my children when I'm not there.. in whatever context, and simply state other issues I feel merit a discussion. You may not get perfect results, but they cannot twist your words or not take you seriously this way.
2007-04-30 18:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by whitexsaucer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband should be taking your side. Your mother-in-law is trying to control you through money, etc.
You and your husband should be a team and he should coordinate with you on decisions. She should only be consulted for advice by you both not be in the decision making role in your life.
She should also just enjoy her grandchild not tell her the shoes you bought are not good enough.
2007-04-30 18:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can we say controlling? Absolutely do NOT PUT her name on the mortgage for any reason whatsoever. You would be best to buy your own home, on your own terms. In addition, you can limit her visits. Your husband should stop being a mamasboy cuz mama isn't so nice.
My sister's MIL was like this and actually was the cause of their splitup (and they didn't even have kids).
2007-04-30 18:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats all just plain rude........i wouldnt do the house thing under any circumstances, that could end up biting you in the ***. the shoes thing is rude too, the kid is seven, of course the damn shoes are going to be dirty. if your husband is calling you a ***** for ANY reason, that should be cause for alarm. somebody needs to cut the cord between him and his mother
2007-04-30 18:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the guy is just being protective about his mother
just tell her that while you really appreciated what she is trying to do you would like for you and your husband to have the final say in buying a house. as for her telling you what you are doing wrong, just ignore her and let her talk. what's the use of you getting upset every time she says something you don't like. maybe she does it BECAUSE she likes to see you get upset.
2007-04-30 18:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by mjmj0103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to control you through money and you and your husband are a team and need to make your own decisionsYour mother-inlaw should be simply enjoying her grandchildren not taking over completely.
2007-04-30 18:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be telling that husband if he thinks I'm a ***** now, he ain;t seen nothing yet. He best talk to his mom and tell her to butt out and knock this crap off or else I will tell her myself.
2007-04-30 18:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a question or a rant?
2007-04-30 18:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋