Some examples are: grabbing his friend's girlfriends *** and feeling her up at our house, feeling up a random girl at a bar, telling a girl she was looking pretty ****** sexy. Not every time we go out but often enough. This is what he's doing when I'm around, what's he doing when I'm not? We have had numerous conversaions about it and it always end with him saying he's going to stop. The last time it happened he said I was over reacting and it's just harmless flirting. I don't feel that it is. It hurts me that he does these things. I don't know what to do. Any advise?
2007-04-30 11:04:47 · 26 answers · asked by me_me625 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would really like to work it out, if possible. I like to go out and have a good time but if to stop drinking is the only solution I would be willing to if he is. Again, I said if he is.
2007-04-30 11:17:46 · update #1
Lola, that is exactly how i feel. And i'm sure those other girls think I'm a chump, maybe I am.
Mike, I have told him that a person teaches others how to treat them. He laughed at me.
Dreamer, I asked him if he was doing it purposely to drive me away, he said no. I have a hard time believing it sometimes tho.
2007-04-30 11:36:34 · update #2
Thank you everyone for answering. I showed him all of your answers to prove that most people, men and women, don't find this to be acceptable behavior. We'll see if it helps. Not gonna hold my breath.
2007-05-02 12:41:06 · update #3
You need a new boyfriend who is going to be all about you. No girl deserves to share her boyfriend's attention with anyone else. He can't call the "flirting" harmless if it's hurting you. And that's not quite my idea of flirting either... that's taking things a bit too far. You don't need this, and most likely he's never going to stop- especially if he doesnt see a problem with it. Just get rid of the loser, cause really when it comes down to it... the joke's on him. He's never gonna get anyone to put up with his sh*t. Sorry you had to for as long as you did, don't waste anymore time. You deserve so much more than you're allowing yourself babe. Good Luck!
2007-04-30 11:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you still with him??? i understand that you may feel like you love him or something but you cant let a guy treat you like this. You were made to be so much more than that. You deserve a lot better. You need to end your realtionship with this guy and if you are really attached, then just remain friends with him until you see hes not the same anymore. And until youre sure, dont do anything with him and try other being with other giys. If hes not treating you the way youo ultimately want to be treated, then hes not even worth your time.. I hope you take my advice.. =]
2007-04-30 18:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him because he seems rude. Find another guy because he might cheat on you and will think it's funny. He will die if he drinks alcohol too much because alcohol damages the liver. If this doesn't help then try asking him why he's always hitting on girls. But remember there are other fish in the sea.
2007-04-30 18:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you had a lot of talks about it and it never stops I think you should consider getting another man. I've been where you are now and trust me your probably just going to end up hurt like I did. Forget him you can do better trust me you'll find someone who appreciates you and will treat you so muck better. Good luck
-Hanna
2007-04-30 18:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by hanna l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be doing that. I would dump him that's me cause I don't take that kind of disrespect lightly. I think it is belittling and those girls must think you are a chump. leave him show him what it is like not to have you around for a couple of months teach him a lesson!
2007-04-30 18:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by lola v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Yeah I love how alcohol is always the scapegoat for every form of cheating....funny how that works huh?
.I think you need to dump him, if he is pulling that crap around you...then yeah I can only imagine what he's doing when you're not there.
.I think that is VERY disrespectful towards you, and you don't deserve to be treated that way at all.
.If he can't get his act together, then you don't need to be sticking around...to basically watch him cheat and act like a sleeze bag right in front of you.
.Move onto better things. You deserve better.
2007-04-30 18:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe u know the answer. u just don't want to let the disrespectful ***hole go for your own personal feelings or benefits. u are the only one who can decide how u are going to be treated. i would love a girlfriend that let me touch and mess around with other girls but how much respect would i have for her?
2007-04-30 18:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by u know it 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's cruel to say but some guys do these things in order for the girl to leave them. They don't have the heart to tell the girl that they want to break up so they do things like you described in order for the girl to leave them. It is a lack of respect for him to do that either in front or you or behind your back. Think about your future. Ask him if he wants you to leave him.
2007-04-30 18:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, this guy is going to get arrested or, at the very least, the crap beaten out of him. I mean, if some guy did this to me, my husband would certainly take care of business. This is inappropriate by any standards, NOT harmless flirting. Ditch this guy and QUICK.
2007-04-30 18:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it has to stop or that's it. End of story. You obviously aren't happy with him or you wouldn't mind. Don't be with someone you want to change. It never works trying to change someone. If you can't love the person for who they are then it's not worth it to love them in the first place
2007-04-30 18:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by fairiechild102682 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋