Who to sit with at the wedding.. Details?

Question

We are not having any BM or MOHs at the wedding, just brides maids and groommen, and they are all bringing dates or at least most of them, Chris's dad is a gm, His momma is helping me kinda plan the wedding adn wants us to sit with out parents at the reception, I dont like that idea, and i have voiced it, neither one of us wants that, but we cant seem to get it thou to her, any advice, how do they nomarlly sit at a wedding

please help

Answer 1

Traditonally the bride, groom, and wedding party sit at the head table, parents sit at regular tables (both sets of parents can sit together or at separate tables, is up to you) and the dates of the wedding party usually sit at another table, usually with people they know if possible, or with people you think they will get along nicely with.

But its your wedding and you can have people sit wherever you please.

Answer 2

it IS a newer tradition to seat the bride and groom with both sets of parents and the maid of honor and best man at the same table. So it is not just her invention.

But it is YOUR wedding. Tell her that you are not doing it to hurt her feelings, but the two of you had something in mind.
Place the table with the parents at it in a prominent place, up towards the front of the room. Besides, with the father as the groomsmen it makes things less traditional anyhow. Is she hurt that her husband is a groomsman but she is not in the wedding other than being walked up as mother of the bride?

Some brides and grooms don't like head tables because they feel they can't interact with their guests as well.

But another newer tradition is seating the bride and groom at an intimate table for two, and then seating the parents of the bride and groom together with the minister/officiant and the grandparents. You could possibly suggest that, especially since there is no best man/maid of honor.

In this case, I would place the father not where the groomsmen are sitting but with his wife.

Answer 3

I've seen it done a few different ways, and Have seen weddings without maid of honor, etc. At the reception you can have a head table with just your wedding party, and the parents at another nearby table of honor. Or if small, you can have parents of both on either side of the bride and groom, with a special table or two with wedding party participants and their guests or partners.... Do it how it means a lot to you, and check on line for wedding advice. I looked up "wedding advice" and got some experts who gave advice on every aspect of wedding planning--a question/answer venue. I dont remember the name, but remember above all, your ideas and desires are what matters. Hold fast to that, and above all, make it a celebration that is memorable and FUN.

It may take a bit of diplomacy to get the point across to your future mother in law, but in the end, she may be glad that they (parents) matter that much to both of you! Your generation is not hers, and every situation is different.

Answer 4

My husband and I sat alone at our own "sweetheart table" for two reasons. I do not like head tables. I feel weird with everyone watching me eat, and it's an awkward set up to have a long stretch of people on each side of the bride and groom. Second, I wanted our wedding party to sit with their families. I hate leaving people stranded at a table where they don't know anyone.

So we had our own table and broke everything else out like this: His parents and my parents, along with our godparents sat at one table. His godparents are his mom's sister and BIL, my godfather is my father's brother, so that seating worked out very well. My FIL was also one of the best men, and my BIL was the other best man. THeir table was right next to ours.

The rest of the party was seated at different tables with their family members and some friends, and they all really enjoyed themselves.

I don't think anyone wants to sit at a long table in the front of the room, and none of their dates want to sit with strangers. I like the idea of spreading people out so they can socialize easier. However, this is a REALLY radical concept in our hometown and we weren't sure how it was going to go over with the mothers and some of the other relatives, so we solved the problem by doing the seating charts ourselves and not discussing it with anyone. Nobody knew where they were sitting before the wedding, and by then it was too late for them to be fussy about it. If anyone did mind, they didn't express it to us, and nobody has said anything negative about it.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Most weddings have the bride and groom at a head table with the bridal party. Parents and normally the grandparents are at a different table that is close to the head table but is not the same one.

If your fiance's mom has a problem with this, you need to just tell her the way it is going to be.

Answer 6

Are you talking the reception?
Most weddings have a head table....where the bride and groom sit(in the middle) with the bridesmaids on one side, and groomsmen on the other.
The parents have a table right near the front, close to the head table, where both sets of parents sit.
If you want to have your parents sit with you, Have the head table be the bride and groom in the middle, his parents on one side, yours on the other...then have the bridesmaids and grooms men on their usual sides.....Its going to be a BIG table......
OR break it into 2 tables...put the parents on each side of the bride and groom, and a 2nd table next to it for the bridesmaids and groomsment...2 head tables. :)

Answer 7

99% of the time the wedding party sits together. So tell them that it is your wedding and that is the way you want it. Also tell them that it is proper and for the parents of the bride and grooms parents to seat with each other so they can get to know each other and they want miss out.

Answer 8

You could do a sweetheart table, wihch is reserved for just you and your husband, and seat everyone else with their own spouses, etc...Those in the wedding party and immediate family should be closest to the front, followed as you would normally. My cousin just did this last week and it worked out great.

Answer 9

For the headtable, it would be you and your husband, bridesmaids on one side, groomsmen on the other. Dates sit in general seating. Parents are optional to have at the head table, as well as grandparents, I've seen it done both ways.

Answer 10

If you don't want a formal head table with all the bridal party, then sit together, just the two of you, at a sweetheart table This way, the bridesmaids and groomsmen can sit with their dates at the regular guest tables. and you can sit alone together at your very own table.