I was curious because my boyfriend & I got into an argument yesterday about the amount of times that we talk. I understand that people need and want their space, but is wanting to just call someone everyday because their on your mind asking too much. I mean my boyfriend and I could spend 7 days together straight but on the 8th day when we don't see each other he doesn't even want to talk to me. If I just call to see how his day is going...what's so needy and clingy about that.
I mean in every other relationship I've had we've talked everyday or every other day and it hasn't been a problem. He just says that he doesn't want to be bothered with me sometimes which I though was a pretty harsh thing to say. So he'll ignore my calls, won't return them and won't respond to my messages. I get a little frustrated about that. I mean when two people live together and they talk everyday...is that being too needy and clingy. What's wrong with wanting to talk to your SO?
2007-04-30 10:26:43 · 5 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talking everyday is not too needy or clingy. Sorry to say this but it seems as though your boyfriend has the problem. That is pretty rude that he wouldn't want to talk to his girlfriend. It sounds as though your boyfriend likes his space but.... Well I think he is the one that needs to get over it. I was wondering... Is he ever rude or disrespectful when he is with you? because maybe just maybe if he has and you are just fed up with it well maybe you should reconsider going out with him. I mean I don't know your whole situation and everything and I could be totally wrong but maybe you should consider what I am saying if he is always rude and you and him have had problems in the past. I hope this helps!
Good Luck!
2007-04-30 12:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He calls it needy and or clingy because he has to deal with it. It can get annoying to anyone that does not have a co-dependent personality. This is not easy to do, but give it a try and I think you will find he will respond in a way you may not think he would. No matter how bad you may want to call him, text him, email him or what ever, don't. Don't call him and if he does not call on the first day, don't call on the second day. Stop showing so much interest in him, in fact make him call you first. I promise you, he will call when he sees that you have not called or sent him any messages and he will want to know what is wrong. Right now, he knows that as long as you are calling, or attempting to get in touch with him, you are completely wrapped up in him. That is why he does not call you, he is not worried. Quit making it so easy for him and make him chase you some. He may try to cover his concern by saying something like "What to get together tonight?" or something along those lines. You need to be busy and not answer the first one or two calls.
2007-05-01 03:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each from time to time human beings merely get too a lot of an significant different.. perchance you do favor to back off slightly and promises him some area.. besides the indisputable fact that that is totally disrespectful of him to push aside and under no circumstances go back your calls. provided your calls are not merely stressful "are you there?" messages. provide him a decision, if he would not answer merely go away a message telling him that you've been calling to confirm how he develop into doing, favor him a superior day and tell him you adore him. short, ordinary and sweet. be careful besides the indisputable fact that.. perchance he has something to hide from you on that eighth day he would not favor any part of you? do not get dissatisfied with him in case you do not comprehend the info, yet merely keep a watchful eye. wish this permits =)
2016-12-05 03:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think some people get in a quiet mood from time to time when they don't feel like talking to anyone,but if he is in a regular mood and just doesn't want to be bothered that is a little different. i think he is lucky to have you for a girlfriend,maybe if you tell him about it he will try to change, if he doesn't i guess it is up to you whether you can make an adjustment and deal with the situation or not, good luck
2007-05-02 09:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by 57rider 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like someone who is so into himself that he has no room for anyone else! Let him have his space. He disrespects you.
2007-04-30 10:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋