its been almost a year and she is so emotionally atached to me and im not and i cant be with her anymore we are like 25+ miles apart and the only reason i am with her is caus i use to live up thereand now i still go to school up there but school is done in like 2 weeks i just need some advice please help
2007-04-30 10:26:07 · 37 answers · asked by mrgreg0_6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be honest with her and break up directyl not with txt message, im or over the phone. be firm not hard-to-get
2007-04-30 10:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by uloveme192 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest - let her know that you want to be single and don't want to date any more. It's a shame that you were only with her because she was convenient to begin with and allowed her to become attached to you when you didn't feel the same way. Hopefully, you will live and learn that you should only enter into a relationship with someone you care about and not just to "have someone". Don't go into blaming her, because you are just as much at fault here. Just let her know that it's over, you're sorry her feelings are hurt, and wish her the best - hopefully, she and you will find people who actually like you for who you are. It's far better for the both of you for you to break up.
2007-04-30 10:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by tiara_askew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be nice to her and let her down easy. Don't dump her over the phone tho. Just ask her to go out for a drink. Explain to her that you just don't want to go on the relationship. Don't be mean, you should be sweet and sraight forward with it. Say that you are sorry. She wil porbably be really upset. Expect some tears. I'd bring a few tissues just in case. You sound sweet, so good luck.
2007-04-30 10:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by * 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it always gets hard when some one becomes emotionally attached. but the distance shouldn't be the deciding factor, your feelings should.
if you feel you need to end it, let her down easy...asure her that she is great and will find someone new and better in no time.
or you could just get her to break up with you.
convince her she deserves better than you, even if you dont believe it yourself...do it for the sake of the break up.
2007-04-30 10:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth... It may hurt her but she will feel much better about it in a few years.. she will appreciate it when she finds the other person.. and you will to! Treat her like you would want to be treated and that way when it happens to you, it wont kill you! karma... it sucks.. but do it right! Best of luck!
2007-04-30 10:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by irishcountrygal07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and just tell her.
Please don't be a coward about this to the point where you *really* end up hurting her.
The truth hurts, yes, but lies and deceit hurt worse. Every day that passes where you don't tell her how you truly feel is just another lie.
2007-04-30 10:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A "user" becomes an "abuser" and eventually you will feel like YOU have been "abused". What comes around goes around and I hope that you realize that you are the road to hurting others that love you which is not good.
2007-04-30 10:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Woody D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with her through the phone or through an email or be more gentleman and leave her personally. Please don't make her suffer anymore longer. I'll be worst if you keep maintaining a relationship where you are not happy in it.
2007-04-30 10:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mom2aGirlandaBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda in the same spot. Except I'm living with her... Just be honest and tell her like it is with you! Sure it's going to hurt her, but there's no getting around that.
2007-04-30 10:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by joeysdudes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her u think u both should see other people for a while cuz schools almost out and u don't think it's working out cuz u guys aren't close (living wise). She'll definatley be upset, but she'll get over you eventually. Try to still be friends, but don't lead her on!!!! Good luck!!!!!!!!!♥
2007-04-30 10:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You write her a letter and say, "it's over. move on!"
Just kidding. Instead, you clearly let her know that you aren't interested anymore. Let her know that she can't depend on you emotionally anymore and then you stick to your guns and you don't turn back, no matter how many times she calls on the phone or cries or threatens to take her own life or anything. Once you go back just once, she's got ya back...
2007-04-30 10:30:12 · answer #11 · answered by My 2 Cents 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋