I want to get my girlfriend a Promise Ring before shes leaves for Argentina on a 4 month Mission trip, I need some idea like how much to spend, when i give it to her do I need to get on a Knee? And what exactly is the Significance of a Promise Ring?
2007-04-30 10:11:10 · 8 answers · asked by farcus2222 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only ring you get down on a knee for is an engagement ring. If you do that she might think you;re actually proposing.
My fiance gave me a promise ring after we had been dating for over a year as a christmas present. Basically a promise ring is a ring that represents a promise from you to be hers always. In otherwords, like a pre-engagement ring. We knew we eventually wanted to marry, but we were both in college and in no position to start a marriage. We're actually engaged now and i have a new, bigger, actual engagement ring. But i do wear both always.
Don't listen to these people. A promise ring is not childish. It's actually a good way to show someone your commitment to them if you have other things going on in your life (such as this 4 month leave you speak of, or in my case, college) that prevent you from being able to actually get engaged and married at this point in time.
As for cost, its just like an engagement ring, you spend what you can afford. I wouldn't spend too much on it though. Mine is gold with a very tiny diamond and was about $200. Yes, diamonds are fine. In fact, a lot of jewellry stores have promise rings with diamonds in them. I was looking at them before i got mine. They're just like smaller versions of engagement rings. You don't have to get diamond though. Any stone is fine. It's the meaning behind it that matters, not the style.
Good thing you asked first though. I suggest you don't give any gifts of which you don't know the significance. And you may want to clear is up with her so that she doesn't misunderstand the reason for giving her the ring.
2007-04-30 10:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I actually do have a promise ring and I'm 19, so it's not really just a little kids thing. For me, I got one for the Valentine's Day before I went to college. My boyfriend and I had been dating for four years at that point, and we were absolutely certain that we wanted to get married but being in high school, he didn't have enough money for an actual engagement ring. But we wanted a sign of commitment, so we exchanged promise rings. I guess you could say it was kind of the same meaning as an engagement ring, but it was for plans of a more of a far off wedding, with the engagement still to come.
Promise rings can be anything you want them to be as long as the significance is understood. Generally, you don't spend any more than $200, but it can range from $50 up. And they don't really have a set "style" either- mine looks like a traditional engagement ring while I gave my bf one with a Celtic design because of our shared heritage. They are a good idea in situations like yours and mine where there will be a long-distance relationship, because they are a symbol of your affection. But one word of advice: DON'T get down on one knee... that will confuse the meaning and she might mistake it for an actual engagement. And also clarify the meaning of the ring when you give it to her, just to avoid future problems.
2007-04-30 10:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
The significance of the ring is a promise to get engaged or married one day. You do not have to get on one knee as you are not proposing. You can get her a simple ring that has her birthstone or another stone (not a diamond) in it. Generally speaking you should only spend a minimum on it unless you plan to take the promise ring and put a diamond in it later on.
2007-04-30 10:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should spend as much or as little as you can. Its the thought that counts. Just dont get her a diamond, because that's for engagements. Dont get on one knee, she'll think you're proposing. I think this is a great time to give it to her. The promise ring in your case would mean that you love her and will miss her while she's away, but you PROMISE to wait for her until she comes back and when she does and you're both ready, then maybe you can move on to getting engaged and being able to get married.
2007-04-30 10:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Promise rings are for young people who are too young to get married and like to play pretend. They don't actually mean anything. Adults get engaged. Some will tell you it is a symbol of commitment or fidelity. Isn't that what an engagement ring is?
Promise ring is a ring of promise given from one person to the other. It can be for anything. Such a purity. Purity rings are very popular now, and they are promise rings. Miss Manners has this to say about them.
"However, Miss Manners feels obliged to warn you that polite society does not recognize such a thing as a chastity ring"
2007-04-30 10:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Do not give a woman a ring unless is an engament ring. It's unnapropiate and rude.
Do not get down on one kneee. It's misleading.
Promise rings are for teenagers and they are unnapropiate to gift to adult women.
Promise rings do not mean anything and normaly have a birthstone. Unless you are 15 years old, don't bother.
Good luck
2007-04-30 10:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Either you wanna marry her or you don't. Don't get on a knee if you're not asking her to marry you. Promisse rings are for kids, get real, I would throw the promisse ring in your head and kick you in the nuts. Respect her!
2007-04-30 10:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by succubus 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
it means nothing and it is totaly misleading also
it gives a women false hope and shattered dreams
2007-04-30 10:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by nexgirl101101 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋