am i just being nosey?

Question

i am a divorced mother with a 13 yr. old boy. he is online a lot and i feel lilke i have a right to know what is being said to him and by him when he is chatting on different websites. he, of course disagrees. what does the yahoo world think?

i just hacked into one of his chat programs and one of the "girls" he chats with goes by "ursexyandiwanttorapeandbuttf***you".so what do the children who are responding to my ? think of that? do you really need space that bad

Answer 1

As a mother of a young child it's your job to know what he's doing and who he's doing it with.

You are definitely not being nosy....you're being a good mother.

Answer 2

Well, You have a HUGE right to know. But that's just me because he's still a kid so also give him a little bit a space to maybe he will lighten up on the computer more....and since your a mother your not being nosey its your job to know what he's doing on the computer

Answer 3

I don't think your really being nosey...ur just doin ur job like all mom's should...but sometimes u should give him a chance to go on....u should trust him, but that doesn't mean u can't check up on him in a while...just don't make it a habit and u guys are going to get along great

Answer 4

Of course ur kid wont like it, you might find out what he is up to...I am a mother as well and I agree, you should be checking, 13 year olds think that nothing can hurt them & the world is not as bad as we the MOM think it is...WE know different, do not feel bad for watching out for him, its your job...God Bless!

Answer 5

You are responsible for him, you probably pay the web bills and made rules for surfing so yes you do.
You can check his history and see if he is surfing pornos, or up to other mischief.
I am a divorced dad and I freaked out when I saw his MySpace page! Guess thats what I get for living 5000 miles away.

Answer 6

Personally, I think you should give your son some space. Sometimes, kids feel more comfortable talking about certain things with their friends than with their parents. It doesn't necessarily mean they are doing anything bad. If you keep looking over your son's shoulder, then he might wind up resenting you for it. Give him a little privacy.

Answer 7

You have every right to want to know. You can know and still respect his privacy, but in today's world...take my advice and make sure you know before something happens. Once ot goes wrong, it's too late to do anything about it. At 13, he still needs to be taught about the world.

Answer 8

i definatly think you sould find out some things but not everything if he doesn't want you to know leave him alone i mean im 12 and when my mom comes around the computer to read what i rite but she goes away if it says "code 9" which means ppl stop talking about what they were talking about and talk about like homework and stuff so either way its like reading YOUR diary in front of the world when you read ur sons personal covos such as Myspace messages Msn messages iLike messages Tagged messages and alot of other things

Answer 9

Prove to himself or yourself that he is okay. Get your own computer and find a way to chat him up all the while pretending to be someone who MIGHT, in the end, be predatory. If he divulges any information or if you take things to far and he doesn't come to you about it, you have proven a whole lot. I love subterfuge!

Answer 10

when I have kids I am going to be going through all of there things now a days you have to just to make sure they are safe I dont see anything wrong with it the way the world is today and besides you made them you have every right to know exactly what is going on in there life

Answer 11

It's not your right. It's your JOB. Most definitely keep an eye on it. If he doesn't like it, too bad. YOU are the parent. YOU set and enforce the rules. If he objects, un plug the computer, and discontinue the service.