I have a guy friend. I see him as just friend. He has a huge crush on me. He even tells me "Your going to marry me". He flirts with me. I told him I have a boyfriend which I don't.
If I tell him I have imaginary friends I talk to, and it's hard NOT talk to them in public, would he NOT have a crush on me???
2007-04-30 08:26:44 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What???? Just tell him about all of the other guys that you DO like. (Constantly) and he has to get sick of it after a while.
2007-04-30 08:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by touhuni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to him. Sit him down and tell him how you feel. Truth hurts, but lies hurt worse. Tell him that he is obviously making you uncomfortable and that although you do cherish his friendship, he has crossed the line and you feel that you need some time away from him. He will be hurt, but in the end, he will appreciate that you were strong enough to tell him how it really was. With you not voicing your true feelings, he may be misinterpreting what you are saying or doing as flirting and he may be thinkin he has a chance. I would after giving him the "talk", distance yourself from him for a while to let it really sink in with him that you were serious about it and maybe he will realize you two are better off as friends.
Good luck.
2007-04-30 08:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look don't make up stuff to make yourself look crazy. Just tell him you only like him as a friend and nothing more. Tell him you feel uncomfortable around him because of his flirting and what not and that you need him to stop, but be sure you let him know that you do still want to be friends (well if you do). And with your imaginary friend who knows it might work but that story could definitely spread around quick.
2007-04-30 08:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He is going to have a crush on you until he finds someone else. You can speed that process up by simply being honest. Say, "Max, I think of you as a good friend, and I value that friendship, but I don't think I'll ever see myself thinking of you as a boyfriend. I hope you can understand that." If he doesn't after awhile, you may have to drop him as a friend. OR, you just might start liking him differently someday. I married my good guy friend long ago.
2007-04-30 08:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. But you might not want to tell him that anyway. If you told him that it could ruin your chances of getting with someone you might actually like if he tells other people and it spreads. Just tell him you enjoy his friendship and you want nothing more then friendship if you haven't told him already. If you have tell him again and make sure he understands. If he still tries to make moves on you then you should drop him as a friend before things start to get out of hand.
Wish you all the best and God bless.
2007-05-08 03:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's so bad about him? Why don't you give him a chance he might turn out to be the best guy you've ever dated. It's usually these types of guys that come on kind of strong around you and friends, but once you are alone with them, they are pretty cool. I say give him a chance, let him see what kind of a person you really are. But don't lie, be yourself. After all you did say he is a guy friend. He is probably observant and knows that you don't have a boyfriend anyway.
2007-04-30 08:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have kinda tried to make someone dislike me before, and that doesn't really work all that well. Why don't you just tell him that you don't like him or whatever. I don't, I never told anyone that I had imaginary friends to talk to. That might work, making him think you are crazy. It depends on how often he see's you and how well he knows you.
2007-05-07 12:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Minuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to be kind but firm......if he continues to profess undying love and predictions about you two in the future (and you are CERTAIN that there is no possible way you could ever feel that way about him) then you need to be calm and quietly, while lookimg him in the eye, tell him you do not see him like that and never will. You want to be friends but he's making you very uncomfortable when he keeps insisting you guys will be together. Tell him if he continues to do this, you will eventually not see him at all. You can re-iterate that you want to be friends but that is all.
2007-04-30 08:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is a 2 way street. Nobody is that desperate, hmm although on second thought I may be wrong. If that is the case get a restraining order.
Else just tell him straight and let your actions match your words. If you cherish the attention but can't stand the dude then that is the price you have to pay.
2007-04-30 08:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Slim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, have you ever had a crush before? Because I don't think that something like that will put a guy off a girl if he really does have strong feelings for her. Take it as a compliment and try and forget he has feelings for you. Don't try to put him off you and you could end ruining your friendship. Just let him get over you, give it time.
2007-04-30 08:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lying to him is VERY immature and mean. Clearly he is not your "friend" if you can do this to him.
Just tell him you are friends, and that is as far as it goes. be polite, but reinstate that you do not want to date him, and would rather just be his friend.
Who knows what the future holds. You might end up marrying him. Or he might become a doctor and super rich and good looking and you will wish you didnt treat him like that.
Karma is a bit*h
2007-04-30 08:31:45 · answer #11 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋