Am i going too far?

Question

I am worried i am taking my appearance too far.
I am an 18 year old boy from a small town.
I am being bullied constantly both by my parents and other people because of how i look.
My parents tell me i am a weirdo and that they don't want to be associated with me, and my mum has recently asked my dad for a divorce, because their child has turned out to be like i have.
I'm quite lost inside this situation, and i feel like its my fault because i wanted to be different. Although I feel like i do not stand out as much as they make out.
I have 4 piercings, i have both sides of my lower lip and both of my ears. One of my ears is stretched to 12mm (1.2cm) which isn't very big when you think about it.
This is how i look:
http://i137.photobucket.com/albums/q208/davecieply/P8200103.jpg

I receive a mixed opinion on my appearance, my close friends and girlfriend tell me i do not look out of place, and that i am still a normal person. But i now feel like a 'weirdo'.
Should i take them all out?

Answer 1

You look like a typical teen of today.
Be yourself while you can. Eventually you will have to trade that look in so you can get a job and support yourself (unless you are lucky enough to be successful in a career where looks dont matter).
So enjoy self expression while you can and ignore what people say about you. They just dont have anything else to do.

Answer 2

I dont think you look weird, youre just being you. I also dont really think your parents are divorcing because of the way you look. That just doesnt happen, if they are, then they have issues not you. On the other hand, now that you are 18, its time to start thinking about getting out in the real world. You have to think about how these piercings will affect your ability to get a job. Employers for certain jobs may not like that. Other than that, its okay to dare to to be different. youre going to have to get a thick skin though, some people act that way to people they do not understand. I have 2 sons and wouldnt mind if they looked like you. That goth stuff scares me... but you nahhh... Good luck!

Answer 3

You're eighteen, it shouldn't matter what your parents say. And if your mom is asking your dad for a divorce there is no way it is your fault. Theres more than just one reason for it, ALWAYS. Trust me, don't blame yourself. And you look perfectly normal. People aren't normal when they start acting really odd, like killing things for no good reason or becoming a sociopath. I highly doubt you are any of those things with a gf and close friends. You're family is just very conservative, thats all, and they probably worry that nobody will accept you if you look the way you do. Grew up looking "weird" in a small town too, so I know how you feel. Just keep it cool till you move out. :) Good luck.

Answer 4

The main thing I would do right now is unstretch my ear before you can't anymore. Ten years from now when you realize how superficial this kind of thing is, you can always take the piercings out.

You say you want to be different, but the truth is there are thousands of people who have piercings, etc., and you are no different from them. What makes you different is inside, and that is what people will value you for.

By the way, if your mom really said she wanted a divorce because of what you look like, she's lying and just using it for an excuse. She wants a divorce for her own reasons, not because of you.

Answer 5

Facial piercings and alterations are a distraction from who you really are, what you really look like. Leave the ear piercing in, wear small studs if you like, take the lip piercings out and the ear stretching out. Go back to being proud to look just as God made you. Instead, work on emotional and spiritual growth. It is what a man has inside that counts. It is his character and his integrity that people will remember and remark on. Be this man of character and integrity.

Answer 6

In todays society piercings are becoming more and more accepted. I think your parents will get over how you look and see you for you and not just some pierced, weird, freak. I have 25 piercings and some tattoos myself and my parents didn't like it at first ( they were never very strict to begin with) but they got over it and accepted me for me, with or without the piercings. You most defiantly are not taking your appearance too far, it's your body and your choice. You are old enough to make you own decisions, your parents just need to see that. Your parents divorce probably didn't have anything to do with you being "different" maybe it's just a cover-up for their own mistakes and insecurities with their own marriage. Maybe they needed to blame someone so they chose you. I wouldn't worry too much, your just fine the way you are.

Answer 7

be who you are. thats the most important thing you can ever carry with you. your parents should love you for who you are..not what you wear or have pierced. i recently got my nose pierced and my parents were a little upset but quickly understood that..this is me. and this is who you ARE..dont feel so sad, a lot of parents react to many things such as this. perhaps they dont want to see you grow up sp fast?? i dont know. but you know what? being different or "wierd" is such a really cool thing, because your not like anyone else. you have your own style only you can pull off! individuality is the key to opening that door to self full fillment. but....it is quite difficult to get a job (if you dont have one already) so its wise to take out the piercings before an interview lol..i reccomend you be yourself, but yeah..dont go too far with the piercings because your still living under your parents roof (right?) and you do have to show some respect for them..although at times it might feel wrong or silly. theyre your parents and im sure they love you no matter what...they might just be giving you a hard time aka: being sarcastic like most parents do to their children lol.

you need to talk to them though and tell them that this is who you are. dont let this ruin your relationship with them. your parents will be the ones who will always be there for you.

trust me..

Answer 8

I'm looking at your photo right now, and I've got to say, it could be alot worse. My parents also freaked out when I started getting pierced, dyeing my hair, and getting tattooed, but they got over it because the love me, no matter what I look like. And if your parents can accept you for who you are, then what do you have to be sorry for? It's their problem, not yours. If they divorce because of the way their son looks, they're just stupid. You're still their son, no matter what you want to look like or how you change your appearance, and just the fact that you are worried about their reaction to you proves that you are still a good son, and have nothing to be sorry for.

Answer 9

For one... its not your fault why your parents are getting a divorce... you are 18 and should have to worry about them. If they cant look past the blame ga,e and realize their own issues thats their fault. NOT YOURS!


second....maybe they just live by their old fashion rules. Maybe they are using a stereo typical type of a "weirdo" meaning too many piercings or tattoos, or crazy hair dos.... what ever the reason is.... its important to be yourself. Everyone should be able to express themselves freely and be able to do with out people judging.... to me you look fine... in fact your pretty cute :) but to the people who hate, it only means that their stupidity has gotten the best of them.. God forbid me step out of the norm and be an individual.... know what I mean?

Mad props for not letting it bring you down!

Answer 10

you seem pretty normal to me...quite cute in my opinion!

i think you need to move to London....you wont be classed as a weirdo here because it is so cosmopolitan.

as long as your not sacrificing virgins on a man made cross while drinking their blood then i don't see what the problem is.

if you have friends and a girlfriend then you couldn't be doing too bad for yourself, dont you think, huh.
But when you are old enough, more mature and in a stable situation - finance wise then leave and come to London.
You can leave home for London when you go to University at 18 or 19...
I wish you all the luck.