Is it better to make some food, buy a mass card and flowers, what? We're not that close, but they're very nice people and I want to do something nice for them.
2007-04-30 07:23:36 · 11 answers · asked by Veruca Salt 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think the yard work help is a great idea, and I will gladly do it, however I'm looking for something I can do NOW to acknowledge the loss.
2007-04-30 07:33:54 · update #1
home cooked food is always good...in a container that they don't have to return and that will be able to go in the freezer for later if need be.
i do like the above that said offer to do yard work/home repairs too if you are good at that sort of thing.
to me, the flowers are just a "generic" that you can get at the store.
2007-04-30 07:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Niffer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if there are children or not, if there are, I would suggest taking the kids from time to time to the park or such.
Home cooked meals or even take out is fine, don't bother asking, just take the 'extra' over, it will be appreciated, anything to help during the time of grief.
As one suggested, home repairs/yard work/clean house once a week would be nice also.
Cards are always good, instead of flowers, send that money in memory of the person to like the cancer society/hospic/whatever organization you choose, they will care about that more.
You may not be close now, but the things you do may open the door for a wonderful friendship.
God Bless, steadfast 1 <><
2007-04-30 15:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by Steadfast † One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are sorry for their loss and offer your help. Go over there, mention you are running to Wal-Mart and would like to know if they need anything while you are out. Also, flowers and a card does not hurt. Flowers that can be planted are best, you don't want to buy flowers and send them there only for them to die and be tossed in the trash. The dead flowers will just be another reminded that they do not need.
2007-04-30 15:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Audra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my father died,my neighbor made some desserts for us,and other family members arranged a catered meal for after the funeral.Bringing food,buying a mass,the flowers are all good ideas.
2007-04-30 14:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of a card, I think a hand written note expressing sympathy for their loss would b every nice. It is a lot more personalized that a Hallmark card. If they have any needs, a personal visit and some polite conversation might reveal that answer to you.
2007-04-30 16:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Carl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband passed away, it would have been great for someone to help with the yard work, small things around the house. We had plenty of flowers, what we didn't have was a man around anymore.
2007-04-30 14:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe bringing over some food would be appreciated. Or offer to help with cleaning the yard. If there are small children in the house, offer to babysit if that's needed.
2007-04-30 16:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by Venetian Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send flowers and a card
2007-04-30 14:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by "Said&Done" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes make food. it's the one thing they wont think of. perhaps you can go to your grocer bakery section and get some rolls, croissants, bisquits and do-nuts for breakfast tommorrow. that way their only option wont be casseroles to eat. good luck!
2007-04-30 15:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut their grass, see if there are any small household repairs you could help with, stuff like that.
2007-04-30 14:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by lyllyan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋