We just took the pre-marriage inventory (200 question exam) and we have to meet with the priest soon. I'm just wondering what types of things you discuss with the priest.
2007-04-30 07:23:23 · 7 answers · asked by Emmers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could end up talking about anything but primarily it's the children, finances and religious aspects of your union from what I've been told. And as Professor C stated I have heard of at least one couple that was encouraged to not get married because of their incompatibility on the exam. However, the stuff they were so low on they had never discussed with one another and upon realizing that they really agreed that they wanted different things from their marriage. They are both happy now with other people.
2007-04-30 07:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The priest you meet will probably be the one that presides over the actual marriage ceremony.
The priest is going to want to get to know you and your fiance; your life history as a Catholic; how you've been involved in the Church, which Sacraments you've received (gone to confession lately?), etc.
The priest is also going to want to know what your plans are; do you intend to raise a family; do you intend to have your children Baptized in the Church, receive a Catholic education, etc.
There's really no way to tell because, while some priests are happy just having a friendly discussion, others might feel compelled to grill you a little bit. It really all depends on the disposition of the priest.
Long story short, the whole point is to make sure you and your fiance are getting married at the right time and for the right reasons, and that you fully understand the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony and all that comes with it.
It's one of those things that will stress you out before-hand but, once the conversation starts, there really is nothing to it.
2007-05-01 04:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that in some instances the results of this inventory have had the priest (who does not know what a marriage actually involves) telling you he does not see the marriage succeeding. The questions are weighted to see if the woman is subservient enough to the man. They also measure maturity and compatibility. This test was devised to keep the number of requests for annulments to a minimum.
Yes I am Catholic.
2007-04-30 07:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the things they will look at is the results of your inventory. It show areas the two of you disagree on- and you better deal with before you get married. It also shows areas of immaturuty and/or idealism about marriage.
This is because a successful marriage really does not require love at all. It requires complete surrender of self to the spouse and much much more work than anyone realizes as they walk down the aisle with stars in their eyes!
2007-05-01 14:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I actually work at the catholic church we are getting married at which means I score the tests for the couples who take them and I have taken the test myself. You will basically talk about "key" areas that you might have scored low on, such as religious points of view, financial problems, personality match, communication, etc. When the test is scored, it will show areas which ya'll disagreed on that you need to talk about. We actually disagreed on some of the communication questions and when we talked to the priest we just talked about how we can communicate better, and also financially how we need to agree on how much to give to the church and how much to spend on certain things.
The test is really a way for them to see how compatible you two are and if there are any real red flag questions such as pressure to marry, not agreeing on how to raise your children (religious-wise) etc.
That was really all we did, wasnt nearly as bad as I thought it would be!!!!
Good luck on your wedding!
2007-04-30 07:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by princesspalley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts on raising the children, how much you will have to pay the church and priest and other attendees, etc. I believe you also still have to attend pre-canna classes, or have they been replaced? It's been 25 years since I did it so I am sure things have changed.
2007-04-30 07:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He asked us if we were open to having children..we discussed things that are expected of a husband and wife. Also what we would do in certain situations and how we would handle them. Nothing major, don't worry.
2007-04-30 07:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋