It will be one procedure that I've wanted done for the past 7 years. It would be noticeable only to myself and will be done by a board certified surgeon. I've really looked into this.
What do you think of me not telling my family? It's something that I'd like to keep as a personal decision. I don't want to feel guilty or like I've made a bad choice by telling my family. If they were openminded, I would let them know- but they're not, and their opinions will hurt me, considering the fact that I'll be changing my body. It's something that I've really wanted since I was 14, and I don't want their opinions / judgements weighing on my mind.
2007-04-30 07:15:20 · 13 answers · asked by :-) 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Sure- you're an adult, if you can afford it, you can do it. Your family never even has to know if you say it's not so noticeable, unless there's a lot of bruising or a long recovery time attached. You should be up-front with them. Let them know that you've wanted this for a long time, and you've done all the research and made the educated decision to do this with your own money. I think they'll support your decision, even if they don't agree.
Oh, and I'm sure that a lot of people on here will try to criticize you for wanting plastic surgery, but as someone who spent her whole childhood and adolescence feeling inferior and getting teased about a facial problem that was easily remedied by cosmetic surgery, I totally understand and support your decision. Believe me, your self-esteem will skyrocket the day the bandages come off! Even if it's only noticeable to you, if it's something that will make you feel better about yourself, and it will improve your overall quality of life. Good luck!
2007-04-30 07:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey- I'm over (WAY over!) 14, and I feel that this is entirely your decision. You're an adult and you have clearly given this a great deal of thought for a very long time. You have also taken the time and effort to learn all you can about the procedure, You definitely have enough information to make a well-reasoned and mature decision on your own. It would be nice if your family was a bit less critical and a lot more supportive, but there isn't anything you can do to change them.:( I'll be rooting for you!
2016-05-17 10:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and am seriously thinking about having a breast lift/implants (due to having 2 children) and my decision has absolutely nothing to do with anyone, not even my husband. It has only to do with the way that I view MY body and what makes ME happy.
I think that's the way you need to look at it. If it is noticable then I guess it doesn't matter whether you tell them or not because they'll be able to tell themselves. But remember, you don't need to give anyone an explanation. Everyone is this world is entitled to their own opinion. Some may agree, some may not. But either way, it is your body and don't let anybody bring you down about what you choose to do.
I don't think you HAVE to tell them. You are an adult and allowed to make decisions on your own without permission now.
Good luck on your surgery and congrats! =) Hope all goes well!
2007-04-30 07:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by ღ♥ Katie ♥ღ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After your 21st Birthday you are an adult, and then you have the same rights and responsibilities as other adults have. At that time you don't need to ask anyone for permission to have surgery...however, keep in mind that your family most likely wants the best for you. They want you to be healthy and to live a happy life. The mentioning of surgery might upset/alarm them. If it is nothing life threatening, then don't tell them until it is done.
Good luck to you in whatever you decide.
2007-04-30 07:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a legal adult you don't need permission to get the surgery. As far as the negative feelings that your family will have, consider this. Will the surgery make you feel better about yourself? If the answer is yes, which is what you are implying, then go with the surgery. If you start making judgements about yourself to please others, you will end up regretting your decisions in life.
2007-04-30 07:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by eric g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 21 you are legally an adult, you need no one's permission for any medical procedure. When you mention "family", do you mean your parents, siblings etc, or do you mean your spouse and your own children? Your birth family has nothing to say in your decision, and whether or not they approve should have no bearing on what you decide. However, your spouse should know and have a say. Any surgery carries risk, up to and including death. IF you are married, your spouse has a right to give you his input on your wants and desires.
2007-04-30 07:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any situation, I would say discuss it with your (immediate) family. But you are an adult and even after you've gotten their opinions, suggestions, questions and criticisms, the final decision will be left for you to make. And I think you have pretty much made up your mind about whether you feel comfortable with bringing it to their attention. But whether you decide to tell them or not, make sure that the plastic surgery is something you'll be happy with and not something that you'll regret later.
2007-04-30 07:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in school (college) then you are still covered under your PARENTS insurance and it won't matter if YOU tell them or not because they will probably get papers from the doctor or hospital or whatever because the insurance is in THEIR names.... if, however you are on your own, working and carrying your own insurance, then no one but you has to know.... my question here would be...if this is elective surgery, it's probably not covered by insurance so IF you are on your own, you would have had to save up enough money not only for the surgery but also extra money IN CASE there are comlications and you end up staying overnight in a hospital...oh and ANY surgery (even a MINOR procedure) can have complications so don't kid yourself...
2007-04-30 09:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what the surgery is for and why you want it... if you have made the decision and its not shockingly obvious then you are old enough to make your own choices! you go girl!
2007-04-30 07:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU said, I don't want their opinions / judgements weighing on my mind.
Then why are you asking US?????????
Sounds to me like you really in your heart already know what their answer would be as well as what the healthiest and the best answer for YOU is!!!!!
Best wishes!!
Have a great day to all who read this!
2007-04-30 07:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by adrianne91669 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋