that it's okay to have sex with the person who you are 100% sure you are going to marry; even if the actual ceremony hasn't happened yet?
2007-04-30 05:40:50 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When I lost my virginity to my husband, it felt more like a wedding than out actual wedding was. Or wedding night, for that matter.
Marriage is just a legal contract. It's the love that matters. Sex is what joins two lovers together.
2007-04-30 05:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kharm 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is true that sexual relations is the ultimate fulfillment of a couple becoming “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:8; 1 Corinthians 6:16; Ephesians 5:31). However, the act of sex does not make a couple married. If that were so, there would be not such thing as pre-marital sex – once a couple had sex, they were married. The Bible calls “pre-marital sex” fornication. It is repeatedly condemned in Scripture along with all other forms of sexual immorality (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes abstinence before marriage. Fornication is the specific term given to sexual relations before marriage. Sex before marriage is just as wrong as adultery and other forms of sexual immorality, because they all involve having sex with someone you are not married to.
If an unmarried couple has sex, does that mean they are married? The Bible gives us no reason to believe this to be the case. The act of sexual relations may have made them for a moment “physically married” but that does not mean God has joined them together as husband and wife. Sex is an important aspect of marriage, and it is the physical act of marriage. Sex between unmarried people, though, does not equal marriage.
2007-04-30 08:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Freedom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible is silent on what happens between a man and wife concerning sex, accept in that neither the man nor the woman should deny each other unless there is a good reason. It also says the man should love his wife and Christ loves the church and the woman should submit to her husband as she does to her Lord. This does not mean a man can abuse his wife, because Christ never abused the church. Christ loved the Church and so must the husband love his wife. It does say sex should be confined to marriage. What happens once you are married, the Bible is silent on. Some people just do not prefer oral sex but the Bible does not mention this subject. I myself believe that if you are married, then what you and your spouse does it up to you and your spouse. So long as you do not abuse each other then what you do is up to you. So if oral sex is your thing, then I think it is fine. If both of you are uncomfortable then that is also fine. If one of you wants it and the other doesn't, then that could become a problem. If both people are christians then pray about it, and maybe seek christian counsel. However, I would be careful about the christian counsel you seek. Make sure the counselor is trustworthy and does not have a bias that might affect the counseling. Such as a counselor who thinks oral sex is wrong...well then the counseling would be pointless.
2016-05-17 09:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, nowhere in the Bible does it say that. Sorry. That is one of the common myths about the Bible.
In the Bible, sex was part of the marriage ceremony. Following a public ceremony the couple would go into another room and have sex. The groom would emerge with the sheet from the bed, hopefully showing a stain from their relationship, as proof that the marriage had been consumated.
If the sheet did NOT have a show of blood, the marriage was immediately annulled. That would be considered proof that the woman was not a virgin, and she could find herself being stoned to death if the groom choose to press the issue. If it is revealed that the groom was the one who took her virginity, he was alson stoned. They took viriginity much more seriously then we do today.
So no, a couple that has sex before the wedding ceremony is not "married in the eyes of God". Rather the groom is considered a rapist a stone for take the woman's virginity, and the woman could be stoned for allowing it.
2007-04-30 05:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off i've never read in the Bible where if you have sex with someone you are married in the eyes of God. And yes I believe even if you know your going to marry the person you should wait until the actual ceremony. Becuase your not truly married in the eyes of God until a minister pronounces you as such. I know it's difficult I was there my own self a few years ago but believe me, it's worth it and you won't lose your salvation over it!
2007-04-30 05:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by lisaandpathailey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that's not quite accurate. The practice was that when a couple became engaged, there was no real ceremony. Once the woman was taken to the man's house, and they presumably had sex, they were considered married. It's the reason God is said to have performed the first marraige between Adam & Eve
2007-04-30 05:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Q&A Queen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible doesn't say you're married simply because you've had sex. There was a ceremony that finalized the marriage, which isn't always detailed within the Bible.
2007-04-30 05:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where in the Bible does it say if you have sex with someone you are married?
It is a sin to have sex with someone you are not married to (even if you think you are 100% sure you are going to marry them). If you aren't married yet, it is a sin.
2007-04-30 05:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get married because sex out of wedlock only causes turmoil. Don't believe me? Look at the statistics. You shouldn't try to find a loophole.
Look at all the pain people, especially teenagers, experience when they are younger and have sex with someone and then break up.
2007-04-30 05:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rick 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
all you people say dont have sex before you marry... well what about those people who think a wedding is a waste of $$ and it can be spent in better ways (and dont say security reasons, because after living together 6 m you are commonlaw and the same benifits apply to you)
my bf and i have had sex, and have no plan on getting married, and we have a little boy. are we going to hell because of it. No. and i think it says you are suppose to have sex for procreation (thats why condoms and bc are looked down apon).
2007-04-30 06:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋