To get on with life, should I squarely face my grief, lost loves, disappointments etc instead of hiding ?

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from them?

Blessings

Namaste

Peace and Love

Answer 1

Perhaps this question is a clue to the one I just answered. I believe that you know you can't "hide." You can deny. Who am I to suggest anything? I've been there? I've never seen denial to work, in the long run. It's just a band aid. Accepting emotional pain isn't that much different than accepting joy. It is what it is. Personally, I would face it. Put it past me. (Not to say it won't in some way aways be there), but in "coming to terms" with the ebb & flow of life, you can accept it. Maybe not in this very moment, but in time. You think?

Answer 2

You should 'face' your grief, lost loves, disappointments SQUARELY, but you should do this ONLY IN YOUR MIND ... you may 'look in a mirror' and talk to your 'image' ... say 'I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY LIFE ... I do not have to be sad, or angry, or disappointed ... I am going to turn these bad emotions into doing GOOD ACTIONS to make my life and the lives of others HAPPIER and NICER.' Then ... go out and 'do that' and you'll find that you have less grief, new loves, and far fewer disappointments in your life.

Answer 3

It might be very difficult, but you should try to do that. Forgiveness is very important, and I like the idea of being "born again" if no particular religion is attached to that. (Shoving religion down your throat is the same as drugs or alcohol.) Even if you fogive someone and can work through the grief you are carrying (for whatever reasons), I think getting ird of resentment is the toughest part, because we always seem to set ourselves up for failure and disappointment. Try to be aware of how you ahve been doing this in the past.

Answer 4

Ever had something catch your attention from the corner of your eye? And then you turn and see it's a branch, a piece of paper or whatever? Same with life.

Only when we 'face' something can we see it clearly for what it is. And in order to 'deal' with something, we need to have some understanding of it. So I don't think hiding is an answer.

But just remember, sometimes we also have to forgive as well as understand. Usually ourselves. Because in the end, we often fail to live up to our own hopes and expectations. And I think allowing ourselves to be less than perfect is sometimes the only way to move on. In my opinion.
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Answer 5

The longing may be better if one does not locate what one pines for, yet i've got self assurance the grieving would be fiercer and the middle bleed greater profusely for a love misplaced. Pining for a love by no skill got here across could go away an vacancy yet no longer a wound. dropping a love leaves a wound.

Answer 6

Facing them is the first step to dealing with them in order to move on. You can't deal with something, if you can't identify it. Sometimes people bury thier traumas, but they come out anyway, but in unexpected ways, like an innapropriate reaction to some other situation. To bury it may seem like dealing with it, but in the end it just festers until one is willing to look at it.
The wound reveals the cure. - Hippocrates

Answer 7

Hiding and evasion is one of the causes of suffering.

It is best to go through it.

Really the primary job of a therapist or psychologist is getting people to face things they don't want to face. Be your own therapist and just go through it.

~ Eric Putkonen

Answer 8

Yes you should face them, that is the only way to come out whole and to be a well person. Its a daily, life-long battle. But it is worth it. Peace

Answer 9

Facing our feelings head on is not often fruitful, it is much preferable to break these feelings into their component blocks, what it is that makes these feelings what they are.

In this way we can face them in their smaller pieces. Grief can be broken up into feelings of loss, feelings of lonliness and feelings of anger and fear, facing each of these and categorising them and making them a part of our consciousness.

Lost love in a similar vane, disappointments the same.

In this way we are facing these feelings, each in turn, breaking them up into manageable peices and making them each a part of our matrix, for they are indeed ours and a part of us, temporary feelings for certain yet they are what make us who we are.

Peace my friend, I send you some hope and a smile freely for your benefit...enjoy them as you can....your happiness is my happiness..

From me...a Buddhist...your friend and many other titles between...

Answer 10

Yes, you should. Many people live many years in denial of their problems and hide with alcohol and drugs. facing your suffering is the best way to overcome it.