Ok, i've a lot of friends who got pregnant last year and this year. I don't think it's right to have kids so young when you're still in school trying to focuse on work and graduating. My boyfriend says he wants to lose it with me but i'm not sure.I learned in conformation that it was suppose to be for married people ,but many people miss use it. I'm a good christian < not perfect but I go to church every Sunday and teach the thirty three year olds we have at are church. I have had many friends this year get pregnant too and I don't know what I can do to help them. Any ideas?? thanks for your help!!!
2007-04-30 04:03:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't help them if they don't seek help. You can hold true to your values and be a sort of role model for others. I say bravo to you and idiots to them.
2007-04-30 04:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a "good atheist" and would like to give you a little advice. Sex is a wonderful thing, but with it comes a tremendous amount of responsibility. Your girlfriends are having babies because they are irresponsible. Of course, some of this is the guys fault for being a complete idiot! Anyway, you have to remember that you run the risk of contracting a sexual disease, getting pregnant, or even worse AIDS. If you want to be sexually active then use your head and use protection. Make sure he uses a condom and make sure you are ready for whatever can happen. Remember that condoms are not 100% effective and that your man needs to put that baby on BEFORE he brings his gear anywhere near you! Your life is basically over if you have a kid at such an early age, and an STD will really slow you down too. Your fellow Christians might tell you not to have sex, but I will tell you to have sex RESPONSIBLY!
Have a serious chat with your BF and let him know the ground rules from the beginning. Even if you choose not to be sexually active always remember my words of wisdom for future partners!
2007-04-30 04:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by monkey tuesday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to have 100% chance of not getting pregnant is not to have sex.
If you are going to have sex then you need to make sure that you use protection. Condoms, both male and female, are the most common form of protection and also lower the risk of STD transfer. Birth control pills increase the amount of estrogen's and predestines in your system and create a poor environment for fertilization.
Intrauterine devices and systems can be inserted by a doctor.
Intrauterine Devices ("IUDs") contain copper (which has a spermicidal effect). Intrauterine Systems ("IUS") release a progestogen (either progesterone or a progestin).
If you do have sex and don't use protect then there is the hormonal emergency contraception is also known as the "morning after pill," although it is licensed for use up to three days after intercourse. This is a high dose of progestin.
2007-04-30 04:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by clint_slicker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think kids that young should have kids either, and if I had a daughter who got pregnant at that age, I would strongly urge her to get an abortion, and I would get her on birth control so it didn't happen again.
There's not really anything that you can do to help your friends, but you can keep yourself from getting into the same situation. I suggest that you get on birth control, even if you aren't planning on having sex anytime soon. That way, if you get lost in a moment with your boyfriend and you do have sex, then you'll be prepared. Also, if and when you do have sex, make any guy that you have sex with use a condom every time IN ADDITION TO you continuing to use your birth control.
2007-04-30 04:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say that you must wait until you're married. High school, however, is too soon. Sex is a very emotionally-charged act and HS relationships are already pretty intense without that to mess them up more. Wait until you're over 18. Then, you're an adult, can (hopefully) make adult decisions, and are more equipped to handle what goes on.
As for your friends, just be a good listener. Ask them how they're getting on and if they need anything, and then really listen and do what you can for them.
2007-04-30 04:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your answer. Your doing what is right. If he doesn't want to wait leave him. You are ready when you are ready. It is hard and isn't cool having a child so young. (Been there done that). The only thing that you can do for your friends is to be there for them and not judge them. Every everyone was as good hearted as you, we would live in the perfect world. Good luck and keep doing the right things. You will be rewarded for them all.
2007-04-30 04:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kev & Mandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol i assume you reside interior the US or Canada? i do no longer and no person out of 500 females have been given pregnant. this is not that complicated to avert.. the linked fee in my usa is 0.4 % of the completed births. And 75% of the teenage pregnancies are to 18 & 19 year olds who've graduated already. North American toddlers might desire to get it at the same time. it is so stupid whilst human beings blame television shows for it. we've the very comparable shows right here too and it did no longer make females initiate getting pregnant.
2017-01-09 03:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by riddell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think good single Christians aren't having sex. Your ignorant. Use protection !!!!! Yes pregnancy at a young age is an issue, But it is a natural ecological course or else you would not be able to get pregnant. More importantly are the STD's. Death
2007-04-30 04:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bf to get lost and only do what you think is best for you. A guy will say anything to get in your pants. Trust me on that. That's my gut reaction.
If you do choose to have sex make sure he is wearing a condom and if you don't have access to birth control pills, I would also take time out to use a spermicide. That's my realistic reaction.
The best way to remain kid-free is to remain abstinent. That is my number one recommendation. And if he dumps you for not having sex - no big loss. That just means he didn't really care about you.
2007-04-30 04:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that in the Bible it says that one man and woman should be married to each other and after they are married they can sex but it isn't a good idea to have sex before marriage. That is what I would tell the girl who is pregnant.
2007-04-30 12:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Josh D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋