I'm not materialistic, and we have bills to pay, but it just doesn't seem right. It's been a long time since I've been with someone this long, and it's the same for him. We now live together, and talk about marriage.
So, is he just being cheap or do you think there is a bigger issue?
2007-04-30 03:51:49 · 11 answers · asked by T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When u have bills to pay u dont have to worry... he is being thoughtful..when u plan to marry, u will have enough things to spend money on... he thinks u r capable of understanding him n supportive of what he is doing... dont lose faith..not exchanging gifts for 1st year annv is neither being cheap nor big issue or doesnt mean he doesnt love u....think what probs he might be facing or may be has some bigger plans for u both..discussing with him helps... communication is important factor in a relationship ... it makes or breaks the relationship
2007-04-30 03:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by RCD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this will not be the first time in your life together when money will be an issue so learn to work around it......is he just not wanting to acknowledge it or be bothered or are you guys genuinly broke? To me, gifts are not a big deal but I am very non-materialistic.....why not do something special for each other that doesn't cost anything - pack a picnic lunch,make a special dinner or dessert or plan a surprise evening at home complete with candles and massage.
None of these things have to be expensive and they will come from the heart. This will also show you if he just doesn't want to be bothered or if it truly is a money issue.
2007-04-30 04:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than any of us do.
.I think that maybe he might not be the type to give gifts? Maybe he doesn't see the point in giving gifts for that particular occasion?
.I don't know it does seem a little odd though, so I would def. try asking him why he feels that way first and see what his reasoning is for it.
**And I understand where you are coming from, and you do have every reason to be a little bit concerned. Because although you might not be materialistic...it's almost like it's sort of expected...(for everyone). So I can see why you express a concern.
**So just talk to him...and ask why he feels that way.
2007-04-30 04:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, we woman are so sentimental. We want to sensationalize one day or actually every holiday. Valentines, Sweetest, Anniversary. Gifts don't have to be monetary. If you want to get him something get it. Don't only get him something if he gets you something. Or plan a special night for the two of you and look back on the good and bad. But the truth is if you are truly in a good realtionship every day is to be celebrated not just the day you met!! Stop making issues of the little stuff or it will pile up and may become the end!
2007-04-30 03:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by cutie_pie28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-09 03:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by riddell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understood the point of celebrating every anniversary (for example, two friends recently celebrated their 3 month anniversary of dating). I just don't get it. I think it's an excuse that many women use to get their idea of romance. Not all, mind you. In my mind, I'd rather skip all the anniversaries, including after marriage, and just have the random, spontaneous moments. Those have more meaning for me.
2007-04-30 04:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're wanting something that doesn't really exist. 1 year anniversary of what? Meeting? Dating? Having sex? Shacking up? You need a gift for which? If you ever get married, you'll actually have something to celebrate.
2007-04-30 03:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes hes being cheap, whats wron with a simple card to let you know how special you are? if this is a big issue for him, th ink about how bigger of an issue its going to be in the future for birthdays, holidays, etc. just something to think about. try asking him whats up?
2007-04-30 03:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't have the money. He probably would like to get you something really nice, but is worried that the money won't be there after all the bills are paid.
Or, maybe he doesn't want you to worry about getting him anything.
Did you ask him?
2007-04-30 03:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Frogger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think that it is you that has the issue. You say that your not materialistic, but then put the "but" after that. So, are you materialistic or not?
2007-04-30 03:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋