Why Does Dating Seem So Easy For Women?

Question

Maybe this is a big misconception on my part, but it seems like women have no problems getting "hit on".
Sure some of these guys could be less than desirable, but admit it. It's either an ego boost, or it happens so much that it's annoying as h3ll.
I'm one of those guys that if the girl is "out of my leauge" I will play and joke w/ her just cause I know theres no chance. But I clam up and get all goofy w/ the women I want to approach, but am too shy to just ask.
In this day and age, why don't more women hit on me?
I also don't have this desirable "bad boy image" that women are drawn to. I'm metrosexual. (straight, but mistaken as gay).
So that's another big drawback. Many possible women assume I'm batting for the other team.
So any advice, secrets, ANYTHING? Offers??? (live in central IN, average looking swm 39) LOL.
Hey can't blame a guy for trying... Thanks!

Answer 1

Here's the line right here:

"I clam up and get all goofy w/ the women I want to approach"

Confidence is the trick, and the lack of it is your undoing. Start by approaching (on a friendly level) the women you don't find interesting. You're not obligated to ask them out, just say hello at the bank, comment on what a beautiful day it is when at the park, tell the girl with only one or two items to go ahead of you in the grocery store. Smile a lot. When you have confidence, the ladies may not hit on you, but they will sure be inviting you to hit on them with their body language and facial expressions.

Practicing on women you don't care if you pull or not will help, I swear. Plus, they will be flattered that you flirted a little with them. It's like spreading the joy. Yay!

Answer 2

I think you should try just being friendly with the women you find attractive and want to ask out. If you just work on building friendships and try not to focus on whether or not they are "in your league" it will help with your shyness. You just need to get more comfortable talking to women you are interested in (not telling you anything new there I'm sure!) and the best way to do that is just to do it. Just start with "Hi, how are you?" or something similar, making eye contact and smiling, and eventually you'll be having an entire conversation and it won't faze you at all.

As for why women don't hit on you more, it could be that they don't think you are interested. Eye contact is important. Don't stare, but a few seconds of eye contact can go a long way. Smiling is also important, not a big goofy grin, but just a simple smile can say a lot. Also, make sure that you're body language doesn't say you are closed off. Women are just as afraid of rejection as men are, and if you are frowning, don't look them in the eye, or are standing/sitting with your arms and/or legs crossed you are going to look stand-offish and women won't approach you because they will think that you aren't interested.

Some women like the "bad boy" image, and some don't. It just depends on the woman really. Just don't try to make women think you are something you're not or it will end up backfiring on you. Don't try to completely revamp your entire image. You are who you are, and someone out there will want you just the way you are. Some will try to tell you that part (or all) of your problem is that you called yourself metrosexual, I don't think that's an issue at all. Look at it this way, if you have to completely change yourself to get a woman, do you really think that she's the right kind of woman for you?

Answer 3

That's a hard question for me to answer, I've been asked this before and I've never known what to say. The only thing I can think of is that men and women are wired differently, seriously. Men, I think hit on women more because it's a physicall thing and not an emotional thing like it is with women. Since you've described yourself a bit, if you are mistaken as gay, you might want to beef up your image, you know? It could be something simple like not shaving for a day or so, have the "rough" look that's masculine...something like that. Act more masculine, I say this on blind faith because I don't know how metrosexuals carry themselves, you know? Good luck!!

Answer 4

Looks can be decieving. Itts not an EASY thing to do. Yeah for me i'm so use to a guy attempting to hit on me that i don't pay many any attention. They are all the wrong type or do it the wrong way. I go after what i want but WON"T hit on a man. To me, i was raised to let the man come to you. Now sometimes they need a little help but there is nothing wrong with that.
For you, i say be yourself. I dont like the bad boy image but i do like a guy that can dress and if i am around him i feel protected you know. Dont be afraid of a bad response, all she can say is no. If she don't thats good for you. If she do dat makes room for someone much better than her. That is her loss...

Answer 5

Just be open with women. I think that maybe women think that you are too hard to get. Also the whole metrosexual thing could be your problem too. I personally am not all for the "badboy" image, so I know there are some other women out there like me. Just keep it real with the women. (by the way, it's hard for some women too. The ones who get all the guys are usually the sluty ones.) In time, the right women will come around.

Answer 6

first of all, you are the man and if you are waiting for a girl to make the first move then you will be waiting a long time and alone.

Even though women have come along way, they vote, they have jobs, they are presidents and senators, when it comes to love they want the guy to make the first move. mostly likely it will alwys be like this and that is a good thing.

You have to accept the very first rule in being a guy you will fail and be rejected in life. Micheal Jordan did'nt become the basketball god he is in one day. No it took him years and years of missing shots and perfecting his technique to become the great guy he is. He failed a lot but he used to this failure to learn on what he had to improve.

You may want to get a certain job but they don't pick you. You may want to get an apartment or house somewhere but they don't give it to you. Or you may want some special girl and she doens't choose you. It's okay to be rejected cause it frees you up to pursue other things. If one girl says no then you can ask another. I amke it a point to be get rejected at least three to five timesbecause when you get rejected

If you find that all the women you ask are rejecting you then you need to change yourself a bit. I'm not really keen on this metrosexual thing or bad boy thing it is just a way people choose to be. You can change the way you dress, the way you think, the music you listen to even the way you talk. To me it sounds more like you lack confidence.

The best advice for you is to learn to dance. Pick some kind of ballroom dancing like Salsa or even SWing dancing. I go to a salsa class every week and i get to dance with about twnety to thirty women . Its fun, i get to meet new people, and women love to dance. I don't care what you look like if a guy can dance then women will flock to him.

Answer 7

LOL...ur too cute. From my experience courage counts. Women like to be pursued and chased--to an extent that is. Don't stalk!! :-) If your interested in a good looking lady, make eye contact. It doesn't mean you have to approach her. Also- I get men who buy me drinks before approaching me. If I like the way he looks- I'll give him a wink and smile. If I don't I'll raise my glass to a toast and continue talking to my girlfriends. Your also a metrosexual---that's awesome!! You take c/o of yourself and look good. Now, all u need to do is take some action. Also- some women like goofy, don't try and be a bad boy. From my experience bad boys=insecurity/drama queens. Bad boys have more psychological problems than one can imagine. A real lady wouldn't even waste a second of her time with a bad boy. More importantly be yourself!! Dating is not easy and you have to go through trial and error until you meet the one!

Good luck sweetheart!

Answer 8

First of all, women dont hit on men only because it has never been socially acceptable. If a man hits on a girl its normal, but if a girl hits on a man, she is a #####. Also, us women like to be pursued. If you think your appearance is a problem, then change it a little bit. But dont change the essence of who you are, because then you would be a phony and you would be attracting the wrong kind of person for you. Just be yourself, only an improved version.

Answer 9

First of all, I'd cut out the metrosexual thing. Why do you do that? And this is why I ask. Metrosexual men tend to have an uber amount of confidence- you seem shy and withdrawn. Don't try to be something you are not. That's probably one of the reasons chicks don't talk to you. Figure out who you really want to be and then get out there.

As for the girls have it easier thing- BS! LOL. We do NOT have it easier. 22 swf here, letting you know!!

Answer 10

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